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Family chaos, trigger!

alitlmorsly
alitlmorsly
I have a family situation, in which my hands are tied. My brother and his son live with my elderly mom and dad. I visit daily and it is always complete chaos! My nephew and my brother are both prescription pain pill addicts and Crack addicts. My mom and dad don't have the heart to throw them out. My brother should have been thrown out 30 years ago! He was the one who got my nephew addicted to everything. My mom is awesome, my dad is way too passive, and disconnected. They are constantly rummaging through their bedroom, looking for non-existent pain pills. They are non-existent because they are at my house, I take my mom a few at a time for her to dibby out to my brother. I have changed the combination on the safe 4 times now, because they keep watching and figuring it out. I need a break! I wish they would go to jail for awhile! I'M just tired of the chaos, early sobriety is not easy under these conditions. I am 3 weeks sober today, and when I crave, I immediately try to identify the cause, It's my new recovery strategy for now. I'm trying to learn to control my anger from this whole situation. It's not easy when they are abusing my parents. Sly
BabyShelby
BabyShelby
Do your brother and nephew work or contribute to the household in some way?
alitlmorsly
alitlmorsly
My brother does the mowing and outside work. My nephew works, but he spends all of his money on drugs. My mom and dad support both of them. They have the money, but shouldn't be giving it to 2 adults. They don't get much, maybe 5 or 10 a day. It adds up! Sly
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Whenever I am face with a situation involving those close to me, I always surrender those things for which I have no control, placing them in the Hands of my Higher Power whom I choose to call God. Then I pray for a solution or I ask to be shown another way. My prayer was always answered, each and every time!

I learned alot in early sobriety, and the most important thing I learned was that I couldn't do it alone. I learned that all I have to do is stay sober and the rest takes care of itself!

God Bless!
msmermaid
msmermaid
I know it sounds way cheesy, but i worry about things beyond my control a lot too and have found the serenity prayer extremely helpful to remind myself that i can only do so much and sometimes things are the way they are and i can't change them. It sounds as if your parents are going to have to be the ones to kick them out if that is their choice. Sadly some people become enablers and just make excuses for drug/ alcohol abuse to continue. I have heard alanon is helpful for those around people of addictions.
Community LeaderExJerseyGirl2
ExJerseyGirl2
That's a difficult situation. I can't think of much to say that would help -- you seem to be doing the best you can in a bad situation. Stay focused on your sobriety. That comes first!
stickywick
stickywick
I can relate. My sister is an active addict and my parents, massive enablers.
If I made my sobriety, happiness or well being contingent on my family getting well.....I'd still be drunk.
So let it go.
Take care of yourself. Focus on your sobriety not their situation.
Their situation sounds like an excuse to drink in the making, and that's not healthy.....
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