avoid one drink, one day at a time

A couple here have mentioned the idea of going to human resources, but I have to say "be careful". Larger companies may have programs for substance abuse recovery, but smaller corporations are well within their rights to terminate your position. Many employment contracts classify you as an "at will" employee, meaning you can be fired at any time, for any reason.

Not saying this to be negative- it's just a fact of life. If you have a good relationship with these people, then they may help you through some type of program. If not, then sometimes you have to do it quietly. I've always been in small business though, and the options for employer sponsored recovery programs have been limited or non-existent. It doesn't mean that there isn't any help out there.....it simply means you may have to find it elsewhere. That being said, I'm sure Howto knows her corporate culture well enough to make the decision.

Dipster has a very good point and it's really good advice. Do you have a trusting relationship with your supervisor/manager? You may be able to get info. through them prior to HR. I would only confide in them if you know for a fact you will be fired.

Keep the faith girl... Praying for you.

You never lost my respect. This disease is real. Forgive yourself and do the suggestions.
Nobody ever left me out for emotional death -- so I am not gonna do that to you either. Brush yourself off and come on.

All of us have expereinced our consequences, and some of us are still expereinceing them. Deal is we are learning that we can live sober no matter what. Even if our arse falls off. Use your tools because, we got work!!!!

Love you deeply,
Darrell

My "bosses" are my brother and his gf who has known me 20 years and I believe she even did some addiction counseling in her past. Small company. I know they have let a couple people go who were obviously in need of treatment. I need to be careful, but I think they will be as accommodating as possible. Brother will probably be in denial.

So far, no repercussions at work. Doesn't matter. I'm done fucking around. I won't have another scare like that. Either way, I am going to come clean with the employer.

I have scheduled an assessment at a rehab facility for 2:30 today.

WOW

WOW

WOW

I am proud of you

Better let us know everything that happens!!! lol

Best to you

Anna-you rock sister! You really do. So awesome to see you're gettin back in that ring. Don't forget your mouth guard cause you're probably gonna get slugged in the jaw a few times, but it'll be worth it I swear! :)

Love ya Olive, very proud! :)

I seem to be the only one who thinks howto is right to apologize.

And I wonder how supportive is this group when they excuse bad behavior. Just because somebody is drunk doesn't mean they shouldn't be held responsible for what they say and do.

Isn't part of support holding each other accountable?

Who are we to "hold her accountable"?. DS is a virtual world. She doesn't have to "earn" anyone's respect back for doing what we alcoholics do when drinking.

I'm not harmed in any way, shape or form when someone posts drunk here so what would be the point other than to shame someone who is already shamed to the core?

Glad, I'm not talking about you being harmed. I'm talking about her. I'm suggesting that it is not supportive to her to excuse her behavior especially when she recognizes the need to apologize.

How does it help her to tell her that the things she has done are not her responsibility but the "disease's" fault?

And how does that make you feel RM?

RR, I have responded to your posts. There have just been so many of them I couldn't get to them all.

I think Anna will tell you I'm no hand stroker.

My point here is why should a drunk have to apologize here or "earn" our respect back? The damage done to self is much graver than that done to anyone on this site.

Compost, Of course, we are accountable for our behavior but can you please tell me why she would owe anyone here an apology?
She didn't wreck my car or get violent with me or puke on my favorite shoes so I'm not getting why you think she owes a bunch of strangers an apology(?).

I don't see you as a joke RM. Far from it. Gambling is as destructive in a life as alcohol, and you have them both. Some here may relate to others more, but that dosn't mean our hope for you is any less. Maybe you look at yourself as a joke. Which isn't cool.

Your right when you say your looking for something. I was looking for the jigsaw pieces of my life, but could never find them. It did start the day I looked in the mirror. "What have I become?" was the first question. The next one was "Who am I?". And no, wouldn't have found that here. Support here most definately, but I found out who I was by looking inside myself. And needed guidance to do so. Not three steps, but all twelve of them.

St Pats day? lol, I got sober in the Navy with a maiden name of O'K.... Good to enjoy St Pats day sober which is today here. My Irish family motto is "Nothing is Difficult to the Brave and Faithful."

To be sure... to be sure...

I think glad2bee is BANG ON, in regards to howtolive doesn't owe anyone an apology. DS is an anonymous online site to find support in our daily struggles. Hey, this is an Alcoholism support group. There are going to be days where people are drunk.

If someone wants to post drunk, whine, "pity pot," scream, cry, vent, rant.... whatever.... That is what the site was designed for. I personally have admiration for those who can reach out for help and post their struggles. It's different for everyone.

I like RR's postings because a lot of the time they are really similar to what is going on with me and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I think a lot of people are afraid to post out of fear of being shamed and bullied.

Hands down to the ones to have to guts to do it!

Howtolive, keep moving forward ;) You are doing hard work on yourself. You never lost my respect for you. I actually admire you more.

Peace:)

Chris, you've received a good reeming from a few people here but we're also the ones who are here when you reach out.

I get you. I was you. I want you to get "it" too but your sobriety isn't up to me. I drank for a long time and can only tell you that I woke up one day and couldn't live with the booze and couldn't live without it. That was my point of desperation.

The disease of alcoholism doesn't play favorites. Neither do I. We're all in this together. You just don't realize that yet.