Jim the only other thing I could add is to use one pharmacist also. I have people I know who use multiple Docs and pharmacists to get what they want. My wife uses one pharmacist and he has kept her out of trouble more than once. BS your friends but not the Docs and pharmacists.

I think you covered most everything. If you really feel self harm is a possibility you might ask to promise you she'd contact you, or help first.

I say detox psych hospital immediately. That type of depression is very dangerous and I can't see them able to help themselves at this point. My prayers and thoughts are with them.

Dear friend,

Before I sobered I was always looking for a fix. A fix to my troubles and a fix to my craving. Didn't always have to be to escape problems...I just wanted to feel that euphoria because I am quite simply an alcoholic who likes that feeling.

I always found it in alcohol and I would plow anything in my way over to get it...my kids, bf, family, job, etc. Once I got it, all was better...until the next day...Then I was always looking for another fix. A fix to my problem with alcoholism.

This kind of mess went on for a long time, because I didn't do a damn thing to change a damn thing. I sat crying out to God to help me, but I felt He must have more important things to do.

God didn't have more important things to do. I did. I was too busy to see all the things He put in from of me that could have helped me because I always put the booze in front of His ideas of a fix.

I finally got desperate enough and did what I had to do, and went to rehab. I had to get away from DS because all this became to me was an online bar in my living room. I heard everyone talking to me, but I wasn't listening. Until I had enough.

I couldn't keep running away from something that I was also chasing. It always took me back to the same place ... drunk.

A decision had to be made...live or die...I decided I had a lot to live for, and here I am...happy, joyous and free.

I'm a proud member of AA,, where I found the solution to my once delusional world. Of course AA isn't the only way, but may you find yours NOW!

Great comments from everyone.

I dont know how quickly things can be done in the US as it is different in the UK but would recommend taking action immediately.

I would also say that the willingness to change needs to be there. None of the suggested things will have any effect unless there is that desire. There are no miracle cures for this. We have to be willing to play our part in getting well.

To our friend, please try not to lose hope. Things can and will change if you can do the things that have been suggested. I and others here have been in similar situations to you and have been able to recover and change. It can happen for you too. It can be scary to think about taking action but it really is better than the alternative.

PM me anytime if I can help in any way.

Prayers for our friend....ER would provide some immediate relief for the physical part and if you are financially able to do a detox center followed by rehab, that would be the best option. Many prayers for you...

hi guys it is me...see i am tired..i really am...do you know what it is like to be tired,sure you do,you have all been there.................my anxiety is better today,yes i have my ativan,but my dr also know s i drink...last time i saw her a month ago i had slowed down,just to pick back up more and more..............i have an appoinment with her monday...i can hold on that long cuz when i woke up this morning i feel more at peace..........i am gonna try my dammdest to get to a metting tonight,i always say that and damn if i dont chicken out............detox is not a way for me right now,hell i am pretty much detoxed off the damn pills..........i dont want to end my life,i just want the cycle to stop.....see i have to take action.......thanks for all the prayers...........

yes i might add tonight,i told him i am going to a meeting.....he said do not take off with my truck(excuse we are married)he thinks i am gonna find someone at aa and go get drunk...........he has no compassion,mind you he is also an alcoholic,just recovered,i guess you could say..........so when i went for detox]and emoitional problaoms in the hosp.the first time he filed for divorce...so i am really not wanting to go back,cuz you see i will not have my home to come home too.........promise.............

but you know what?with the grace of god and my hard work,i might not need him anyway................

Like I told you in the PM I sent you, if there is anything I can do for you from just listening to trying to help by giving suggestions, please contact me. Alot of people love you. You may feel alone but please believe me when I say.....you are not hopeless and you are definitely not alone. With love, a sister in recovery

Hotke-why is detox not an option. Dear-you are so desperate right now, you need to go to drastic measures to get well. I cannot know your situation first hand, but I just feel that you need to go inpatient right now. Please, no excuses, go. It has to happen, I just know it. Please be well.

okay i have an hour before the meeting,,detox is not an option because my husband will leave me,,i promise..........i need it now.............

There is hope, sweetie, but only if you get off the drugs and alcohol. I really think that you should detox in a hospital. Your life could be in danger from the DT's. Right now saving your life is more important than saving your marriage. I also want to let you know that your husband's attitude is not appropriate. In fact, it sounds abusive. You need to take care of yourself, since he seems to be incapable of making choices that are in your best interest. He may be sober, but he sounds quite sick, IMO. You are going to have to take the steps to save your life without him, it sounds like. You can do it. We are all here to help support you, as is AA.

I am here if you want to talk. I have been where you are now and I survived you. You can, too. There is a wonderful, sober life waiting for you if you want it. The world is your oyster.