I meant 12/28/2014

I have had a fair amount of bad luck in my life but I have been very lucky for never being arrested for driving under the influence. I actually got stopped once but I was able to fool the cop, I paid a high price in other ways, for my drinking and drugging but I think the worse thing I could have done done is compare myself to others and develop that "woe is me" attitude.

I remember telling my AA sponser whenever I was having a very bad day and he always told me the same thing...."This too shall pass"!

And it always did, and life got better, much better but it didn't happen overnight. It took time.

This doesn't mean that life was always a bed of roses because I stopped drinking, In fact I am having a rough day today but know what? This too shall pass!

Thankyou for sharing, I needed to read this post today!

God Bless!

Every state is different, compared, yours looks cheap. My friend in Alaska says that a Drunk Driving arrest there costs upwards of $20,000 all told. Heck of a price to get your kicks. And that's without any accident, let alone personal injury or death, where one can be sued for everything. Take care.

Oh, I forgot to add. I'll be sentenced on 3/4/15 maximum of 180 days court costs and definitely my job if that happens. My attorney seems to think I'll get 10 days in a treatment facility and 170 days suspended. That I can handle. Bring on the rehab, I'm ready!

CF

Man I know how it feels to do an about face after making the wrong choices and not have the breaks go your way.
On the positive side you will only get 10 days most likely, and if its in rehab it will be a double blessing. I still can't figure out how there can be so many people who call themselves alcoholic on this site and could never have gotten a dui/dwi lol! Being a recovering addicted drinker whose had his share I had to get over that one and see that my story was not theirs and we all got here in our own way.
I could say good luck to you but your desire to do the right thing will eventually pan out and put things in your favor.Keep that positive edge.

Here in Maine, it's a weekend in jail if first offense but the jails got filled up so quick, I don't even think they do that anymore. Now it's community service.

I felt sorry for myself after my DUI also, when I had to pay all those fines and spend all that time doing community service, counseling, etc, etc. Was only $2,500 for me but I was only 22 so I didn't have much money being a college kid.

Reason the Kroger people didn't show up probably is because more than likely whatever they were doing at the time was worth more to them than $300...it's a drop in the bucket.

However, driving under the influence you are risking so much more. You can kill someone or yourself if you get into an accident and that is why they take it so seriously. Looking back on mine, I'm grateful it taught me the lesson of not drinking and driving without teaching me an even greater lesson.

The financial aspects are difficult, but you can work through it. Try to be grateful things weren't worse and hopefully learn not to drink and drive again (hopefully not to drink at all). :)

Hi,
I was just reminiscing about the word consequences and I flashed back to so many faces and so many stories I've witnessed.Some of the stories were enough to make a sound enough impression to slow down the progression and just as many have continued in a tailspin that is hard to imagine unless you know some one closely or have experienced it yourself.

I really like the analogy that goes ,keep your memories green, or the old adage momentum is like a run away train, harness it and use it as vehicle to your highest good:))

Consequences as Chogyam Trungpa might say it in one of his talks may just create a further state of neurosis through conceptualizing mind games that seems to lack a sense of ones true self. and helps to cover up the real reality at hand..he lived it as many of us have and that in itself carries a lot of weight with Me:)) My sponsor Bill H used to say ,The verdict is still OuT Now follow Your Bliss...I've always liked a spooky Spiritual Slant Ha!!

Idiot compassion is the highly conceptualized idea that
you want to do good....Of course, [according to the mahayana teachings of
Buddhism] you should do everything for everybody; there is no selection
involved at all. But that doesn't mean to say that you have to be gentle
all the time. Your gentleness should have heart, strength. In order that
your compassion doesn't become idiot compassion, you have to use your
intelligence. Otherwise, there could be self-indulgence of thinking that
you are creating a compassionate situation when in fact you are feeding the
other person's aggression. If you go to a shop and the shopkeeper cheats
you and you go back and let him cheat you again, that doesn't seem to be a
very healthy thing to do for others.

Chogyam Trungpa

Billy

One mooore for Good Measure:))

In the garden of gentle sanity
May you be bombarded by coconuts of wakefulness.

Chogyam Trungpa

okyoie,

pretty deep stuff, my favorite part is the hundreds of coconuts I'm dodging.

Peace

I always find that punishments are different for each individual even if you both are charged with the same exact situation and have the same past. However, I feel that its a blessing in disguise however the punishment or situation turns out because we are all on different levels and need different levels of punishment or etc.

It sucks that you are in this situation, but you know, of course, how much worse it could have been.

I take it you didn't hurt yourself or anyone while driving drunk?

Money can be repaid, but broken bodies are difficult to mend. Just saying.

#12 so true. You reminded me of a young lady in my home group who spent 5 years in prison for manslaughter due to killing a person as a result of driving while intoxicated. I remember she spoke to my IOP group as a member representing AA and her story was so disturbing that she had to skip over some parts of it for fear of breaking down but the group knew what had happened and it is so so sad the devastation one bad decision can have.

God Bless!

Noted, I am without a doubt extremely fortunate that I did not hurt anyone or myself. No property damage, I haven't lost my family, my friends or for that matter anything that really matters. We discussed my situation at my meeting last night and its as if you were all there. I am grateful for the sanity check and all of the advice. This makes facing the consequences a bit easier to deal with.

Thank you

I hear you. My accident and subsequent arrest for OWI on 6/28/14, has cost me nearly $10k. It is important for us to remember the consequences and reading your story helped bring everything back to me full force. The consequences just seem to come at us so quickly in early sobriety. It is so often the consequences that get us the help we need.

Going to jail is a pretty scary thing. I sat in a cell the night of my arrest. It was a first OWI and the system put me through the steps, even screwing things up along the way. Since I don't work, I can't drive.

You sound ready to change, to do whatever comes your way. Be sure you record somewhere (a journal, an email to yourself- whatever works for you) what happened and what is going on. It just might be what you need down the road when things get calmer and better and your disease tells you that you can handle the drink.

Hang in there.
I wish you peace.
((( hugs )))