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Can I ever just have one or two?

layla54
layla54
So today is the first day of sobriety for me and I'm still getting used to the idea of it and figuring out what my goals should be. So I realized that I have to not drink at all because no matter how hard I tell myself I can have one or two, I always fail.

So, my question is, will there ever be a time in life when I can be a social drinker and only have one or two? There is a lot of info online, I just wanted to get some opinions from people with real world experiences.....
ikers4
ikers4
I'm right there with you. I have asked myself that for a long time. I am on day 2 of no drinking. I know the challenge for me will be on Thursday which would be the start of my weekend drinking beer until Sunday. May I suggest to focus on not drinking now and see how you do. Thinking about whether or not you can be a social drinker is probably adding stress to your life. I know that I do the same thing. I hope you stay strong and keep focused, we must lean on each other:0)
SwtLdyLvr
SwtLdyLvr
An alcoholic can never become a social drinker no matter how much time sober they have. I had 10+ years of sober time and I just had to try it. Needless to say I drank for some time after that and I was just fortunate to make it back to AA. I now have almost 6 years again and I find that I don't even think about going back out there and drinking again. Hope this helps and good luck.
Egwene
Egwene
These posts are all really helpful on my day 3, as I begain to come to terms with the fact that I am an alcoholic, after years and years of denial. I need to stop fantasizing that I will reach a place one day where I can just have one drink now and then and drink responsibly. After 7 weeks sober last year, i decided to drink on holiday as my partner is an alcoholic and loves to drink. This led to 4 months of increasingly out of control drinking, several more scars from damaging myself whilst drunk, one frightening episode of blacking out for several hours and more shame and embarrasment to live with. I now fully understand that 'one drink is one too many' statement.
weinere46
weinere46
Sorry Layla,
But the answer is no. Ten to one you were born with the alcoholic gene turned to the "on" position. You are really allergic to alcohol and what is happening is that your having an allergic reaction to it.
Save yourself years of strife and just accept the fact that you cannot drink. The good news is that there is a great life to be had without alcohol, you just have to eliminate it from yours. Eric
stickywick
stickywick
I don't want one or two. Why? I'v never ever wanted just a drink. Could I have one? Sure and on a few occasions I'd "prove" to myself I could drink a few drinks. I hated it. I saw no point.
So I knew. I could either drink like I craved, as dictated by my disease and I'd get pass out drunk. Or...I could have one or two and feel even more anxious, pissed off, and discontent.
It took alott of trial and error and black or brown outs before I was able to admit that I'm alcoholic. Once I knew that to my core, I knew I couldnt have one or two so again...why would I try?
why would you?