Don't hate just keep trying. I have been slipping since my ex left.

Don't hate yourself. Self loathing will only make it worse. That is part of how this disease controls. Is there anyway you can identify what caused it? Don't give up girl. Today is a new day. Hugs

Do you suck at sobriety, or at abstinence? (I just posted on this in the Alcoholics Anon forum)

Self-hatred is a surefire way to be unhappy in your own skin--and that's never good.

I think we have all had times where we have chosen to drink again. At one time I think I was the worst A.A. member around. I had so many desire chips, that when my group was going to buy more at a bussiness meeting, I offered to bring mine so they wouldn't have to buy them. I remember one time even going up to get a desire chip with a beer in my pocket. I was a mess. What I did learn tho, that beating yourself up doesn't help. Only makes you feel bad so you want to drink again. Wayne Gretzsky didn't get successfull, or famous over night. Made lots of mistakes, mayby even more than the average player, but he never gave up. Kept pushing no matter what anyone thought. You need to too. When you slip and fall, get back up, and try again. Don't waste your time analyzing why, and putting yourself down. Get back up and go again. Your time is comming. Everything is a step closer, even our falls. All the best. James

I am going into my first weekend sober....AGAIN. I have quit loads of times and failed. My problem is that I really like to drink. That's it.

I like it. I just don't like what comes with it. It poisons my mind, my body and my life. So that is four and a half days now in a row.

All I want to do tonight is curl up with a bottle, it is Friday night after all. I hope I won't.

Please don't feel bad. You are not alone.

James,

LOL! Your chip(s) & beer in the pocket story, is priceless! OMG!

Ask yourself what you did so wrong that caused you to relapse.The answer is probably nothing.The last time I relapsed the reason wasn't because I did anything wrong.It was because I wasn't doing everything I could do to stay sober.Some things just seemed too ridiculous for ME.There came a point when I had to do what was suggested and take clear cut direction.

We've all been there man. The choice will always be yours however. Do you want to live or die? This addiction can can kill us. Every moment that you don't drink is a success 'cause that SOB called Alcoholism is out in your front yard doing push-ups waiting to step back in to the ring with you. You're depressed because of the alcohol. Why pour depression on depression?

Give yourself some Grace....

We are alcoholics, it's what we do...drink. Staying sober is the most unnatural thing a drunk can do!

As many have said before me, don't hate yourself, just remember to keep trying and, if you attend AA, then maybe you need to go to a meeting. If not, maybe it's time to give them a chance to give you the support that is so important in early recovery. I was never able to go it alone, and until I realized that, I kept on drinking and hating myself for it. It's a vicious circle!

Don't beat yourself up, girlfriend, just keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm pulling for you!

BG.

Dipso, Don't hate yourself. You are human and humans make mistakes. And all of us who struggle with drinking have slipped for no reason. We have all been there. Look forward, forgive yourself, and do something nice for yourself today.

Please do not hate yourself! That will only want you to drink more. That is how I was/am. Or I thought I deserved a drink because I had a bad day, or even a great day. Alcohol was always a reward somehow, or self-pity enjoyment. This disease is so complex with each individual. Try not to dwell on the slip, you are human. Just try and be conscious of why you drink, and learn to love yourself for who you are!

drinking dose suck it most certainly dose. Drinking for me is like saying okay self hatred , ok insecurities eat me, ok to death. Yep drinking sucks & I hate that me when I did it. I don't have a lover named alcohol anymore ...the dude was out to kill me. short of a noose and a shower rod that rat bastard was. Yep drinking is self hatred.

oh I forgot to mention, a slip is something I wear under my clothes when I don't want to seem transparent. Your lover & friend will knock agin at your door tonight & every nite til mabey you are unavailable. You know a meeting somewhere, coffee after . Cunning , Powerful and yep baffeling. Dump this lover it's a loser. Best to you sug

You are not going to like this, but I don't believe in slips. I believe in subconsciously planned drunks. I didn't go to a meeting for a week. I didn't pray. I got too hungry, angry lonely tired. I let a resentment build. I didn't call anyone. I didn't check in here and chat with a friend.
Now you feel very guilty and your subconscious is telling you your a loser and the only way to fix this is to drink again. That will make it allright. I mean wht the heck you already drank why not put off sobriety for another day.
You must get honest. You must take action prior to taking the first drink.
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