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At a loss!!!!

coffee
coffee

partner is drinking away our money....I have money for food but no longer have money for his alcohol, tomorrow he can't have any alcohol whatsoever what do I do. The drinking is out of control i feel useless, powerless and generally shit

PJ54
PJ54
Hello coffee,

It will continue like that and probably get worse until you get tough and call a halt. Your partner has no incentive to change for as long as you put up with his drinking.

Try to catch him when he is sober and have an honest talk. You need to decide if this is the life that that you are going to accept into the future or if something has to change. Is your partner prepared to face his drinking problem? If he is, encourage him to go to AA but don’t nag him as he will use that as an excuse to justify his drinking. If he is not prepared to look for help, you need to decide whether you would be better off with or without him.

You cannot change your partner or force him to get sober but you can take care of yourself and Al-Anon would help you with that. There is hope so look at changing the things that you can change and pray for the things that you cannot change.
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
Try to stay strong. It may be time to consider leaving.
coffee
coffee
It's so hard, when he's sober which he has been before it's a normal loving relationship you know going to work etc the norm really then a relapse occurs and it becomes tiring obviously his work goes out of the window along with everything else I feel like a proper moaner I'm sat here screaming inside but nothing is coming out!!! Thank you both for your kind words I feel so friggin lonely at times God bless you
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
You must do what's best for you coffee. His drinking will make you insane. Alcoholics like the insanity. You don't have to accept it.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Love is a two way street, you have to ask yourself if you are getting as much in return as you are giving to him. I think you already know the answer. Alcoholism is a call for help but he is in denial and not willing to accept that help based on what you just said. He has not hit his "low" yet.

What you need right now is alot of support and alanon is a great place to find that support. You will learn how others handled an alcoholic spouse, what worked for them and what didn't work and then you can decide what you want to do with all the unconditional love that others, in your situation, can give.

I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless!
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