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My girlfriend, Lilli and her husband, both bartended at this place for over 25 years.
I have not gone there for over a year but Lilli and I have been shopping buddies for years.
Lilli knows I will never go there again. She has been distant but we have always been friends....so I thought.
A buddy of mine came over today and told me that her husband died of liver cancer three months ago.
I don't understand why Lilli didn't tell me this.
I am heart broken.
Her husband, Dave, had a horrible leg issue I never understood but I always thought he would die from it. Not liver cancer. I never really saw them drink much. His diagnosis and death were swift. One month.
These people I love.
Lilli moved and I have no idea how to find her.
I don't even know their last names.
Gawd.
They loved each other so much I cannot tell you.
She adored him. He was a bit of a prick to her but gawd did they love each other.
She must be so lost.
I don't know what to say.
I don't understand why she never let me know.
Maybe she thinks I don't care cuz I don't go there anymore.
I have not gone there for over a year but Lilli and I have been shopping buddies for years.
Lilli knows I will never go there again. She has been distant but we have always been friends....so I thought.
A buddy of mine came over today and told me that her husband died of liver cancer three months ago.
I don't understand why Lilli didn't tell me this.
I am heart broken.
Her husband, Dave, had a horrible leg issue I never understood but I always thought he would die from it. Not liver cancer. I never really saw them drink much. His diagnosis and death were swift. One month.
These people I love.
Lilli moved and I have no idea how to find her.
I don't even know their last names.
Gawd.
They loved each other so much I cannot tell you.
She adored him. He was a bit of a prick to her but gawd did they love each other.
She must be so lost.
I don't know what to say.
I don't understand why she never let me know.
Maybe she thinks I don't care cuz I don't go there anymore.
Drop it off at the bar or have someone else do it. If she's not there anymore I'm sure someone will know how to forward it.
Sorry for your loss
Reed's suggestion is a great idea, someone there probably knows how to reach her.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss (and hers).
I am furious at her!
She still works at the bar.
I'm going to go there and just stare at her with a stiff upper lip and when no one can hear...give her a growl of how dare she. We are friends OUTSIDE of the bar! We shop!!! We are friends....I'm pissed and I'm going to the fucking bar and let her know.
I really just want to hug her.
I am so furious and sad at the same time.
I am mad at her.
I am so horribly sad her husband, my friend too, died. So horribly sad.
I just don't understand why she couldn't share her grief with me, her friend.
You don't know how many years and hours we have laughed - just the two of us.
There was a time she was jealous of her husband and me. Drove me crazy cuz oh gawd..............nothing about Dave turned me on....but
when they closed the bar.....sometimes...
It was just us three and Lilli would cut my hair. She loves to do that.
Dave was my friend too and she knows that.
I'm pissed and I'm stickin to it.
All you can do is be a presence in her life and all you can say is 'I care'. The grieving cycle can be long and arduous, and can be difficult for friends to understand at times. Just let her know that you are near, and if she chooses to contact you, and you can be a true friend, she will not be alone.
Coogee xxx
I just learned about his death a few hours ago so I am going thru swings.....
Boy...
You just don't know how much she loves him. I will just hug her.
If I go to that bar tonight, Lilli and I will be sharing shots of probably blackberry brandy - which I can't stand.
But that's what she likes and what Dave liked.
We'll sing to Carol King to our hearts' content.
That's how I see it happening.
your heart brings a tear to my eye.......BIG HUGS to you and those you touch.