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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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BlueRobin
BlueRobin

Been a beer drinker all my life!  Retired in 2015, and I've lost control of the amount of beer I drink.  I live by myself, so I basically can only self monitor.  I tell myself that I need to quit, which I do need to!  Only to wake up and change my mind after a few hours.  I feel like I've got two people, with two different minds in my same body!  My unsober mind tells me that I need to control, which I'll go to sleep with.  When I wake, I'll do fine for a little while, and then give in.  Been reading alot about hints and such, but it's my loss of control, that seems to be the major problem.  I'll try some of the hints, only to quit, and start drinking again!  Any advice on mind control?

stepone
stepone
"The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery.

The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be
smashed. We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to
control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers
control. All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but
such intervals –usually brief—were inevitably followed by still less
control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible
demoralization. We are convinced to a man that alcoholics of our
type are in the grip of a progressive illness. Over any considerable
period we get worse, never better." Big Book page 30
1is2many
1is2many
Remove the beer from the house or you will think about it nonstop and then drink it guaranteed.

Also the NA beer is bad for me because I tried it many times and my brain would say f this I want the real thing.

Find a replacement. I go to s meeting most days and truly believe it’s helped me stay away from the bottle since June 2012
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james5201
james5201
I have the same problem. I'de love to quit but being alone really bothers me. Just don't know how to live alone without drinking. I try to stick to beer because hard liquer can be too unpredictable. Beer is a lot more controlable for me. Half the time I can't even get a buzz of it, but when I start I want to keep trying to get that buzz. Being straight just doesn't feel right to me. I've tried and tried but the best I can do is just controle it the best I can with beer. Only time I've lived straight is being in jail. I haven't gone there for a long time, but it was better being in there than on the streets. I wasn't alone, I worked out and got healthy, I ate well, and had a place to sleep. The only way that I can have some success is to get my ass out to a gym and work out. It's hard.
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