I'm sorry to hear about your divorce and alcohol problems. I'm not an alcoholic but I live with one, well that was until 9 days before Christmas.... He was arrested for a probation violation stemming from a DUI. He will be doing almost 3 years. You can change your life and deep down you know you can, but you have to want to! Is the drinking the cause of the divorce or an effect from the divorce? I am also divorced.

Hello JustSukie,

Glad to see you here and I hope that the future is brighter for you.

What I can tell you is that this time eight years ago I was someone without hope. I could not stop drinking, my life was falling apart and I believed that there was no way to fix it. A few months later it got worse and it was then that I accepted that I could not do it on my own if I wanted to live I would need to look for help. I reluctantly went to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous and have not had a drink since. That is a very big deal for an alcoholic like me but it is only part of the story. The other part is that not only do I not want to drink anymore but life is so much better in many other ways.

What you do is not my business but that is what has worked for me.

There is hope. Although we can't change the past, we can change the present one day at a time. When I first quit, I had to let go of all my guilt and self pity so I would have the motivation to change. I did this with the help of the 12 steps through AA. I stayed sober, and my life changed completely!

8 years ago, I did not want to live anymore. I felt like I had built a trap that I couldn't get out of. I drove myself to the emergency room, (drunk) desparate for help, they put me in detox. From that day on, one thing led to another. From detox it was a 3 week outpatient program which I took in the evenings so I could continue to work.

Long story short, it has been AA that has kept me sober to this day.

God Bless!

Hi JustSukie, welcome. Glad you are here. You are not alone. I've been through the ringer last 2 years. I got divorced after 21 years. So much pain and turmoil... And it continues. There is so much, that drinking just adds another layer of dysfunction. I feel so much better mentally, emotionally and spiritually without the booze. One day at a time. You can do it. It will get easier and better. You are worth it! Hugs.

There is nothing more wonderful that a single life living sober, and equally a married life sober. I discovered myself and followed my bliss. First business is getting sober. I did it on day at a time. It was difficult facing the emotions that I ran away from by getting loaded. I had a lot of fear facing problem that arose in life, but each day that I faced one sober the fear begaim less. Eventually my emotions were not overwhelming. Just remember that one drink will led to another and so forth. For today, do not drink. Worry about tomorrow, when it comes.

JustSukie,

I'm sorry to read your pain. For me AA was key in me regaining my dignity. If you understand that you are powerless over alcohol, AA can work for you.