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20 month check in....

Mishelly2013
Mishelly2013
I'm still here:) I've had some tough moments this month, I find myself wishing that I could be a "normal" drinker and just have a couple of glasses of wine. I think it through though, I know where that would go and then I'd be back to day one.
I end my check in posts by thanking the old timers on here......I really mean it. It is so reassuring to know that you guys are out there. I've never been a big poster (or got involved in some of the fights on here:) but just reading your replies and recognizing your names has been a huge help to me. THANK YOU! Xxx
abshoefreakshow
abshoefreakshow
I remember U!!! Sounds like good news!!!
Sosa86
Sosa86
Great work! You inspire me! Congratulations on living the good life.
billwfriend
billwfriend
hugs and a four month period to a anniversary will go pretty fast keep the plug in the jug!
FairiIse
FairiIse
Hello and congratulations on 20 months, it's good you can think that drink through and that has helped you so far. I am sorry to hear that you still wish you could be a normal drinker though. Is that just this month or something that you think of often?

I looked at your profile and see you are following a non 12 step route. it's not clear whether you are doing this alone or with some kind of programme. It is possible for recovered alcoholics or recovered problem drinkers not to miss alcohol at all so I hope you continue to look for satisfaction in sobriety by seeking new tools to help you, wherever that may take you.
Mishelly2013
Mishelly2013
Thanks all....yes Fairilse, I read Allen Carr's book The Easy Way initially and quit with no problem. My husband quit too so I do have support (although he's not a big talker:) I'm not opposed to AA at all, just don't want to spend my valuable time there! I would go for sure if I ever took another drink.
I won't get into the whole Allen Carr philosophy but I do remember a part that applied to me.....what we (alcoholics) miss is the perception that alcohol relaxed us at the end of a hard day. It's possible and easy to get that feeling in other ways and so that's what I do instead.
FairiIse
FairiIse
Yes, I understand - it was certainly an illusion for me that alcohol could bring me relaxation, oblivion yes - if I drank a bottle of vodka - but oh my, what a price.

I've heard a few people recommend the Alan Carr book and I'm glad it has been helpful to you.
lg1
lg1
Congrats.Keep up the good work.JFT
cloverset14
cloverset14
That's wonderful news! You CAN do this!
gr8ful2b
gr8ful2b
Congrats on 20 months!

If you still think about a drink after 20 months, there may be a missing piece of the puzzle somewhere. If you don't mind my asking, how have you stayed sober a whole 20 months?

Hugs,

Dianna
Mishelly2013
Mishelly2013
It's actually been pretty easy....and I rarely get the "what if's"
I probably have been thinking about it this month because I'm moving (again) and my prior MO when I have a big project like packing the whole house was to stay up late with wine and get to work. I know that I won't drink no matter what the stressor because of all the steps I'd have to take to actually drink.......thinking, deciding, then buying it etc. I'm done for good:)
1is2many
1is2many
Wow 20 months. Your close to two years! Wow
1is2many
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