Agoraphobia & Social Anxiety Support Group

Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder, often precipitated by the fear of having a panic attack in a setting from which there is no easy means of escape. As a result, sufferers of agoraphobia may avoid public and/or unfamiliar places. In severe cases, the sufferer may become confined to their home, experiencing difficulty traveling from this "safe place."

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NerviousPDX
NerviousPDX

Hi I'm a guitar player who is craving the union of a band, and jam sessions.


Posting music online is fine, but I miss the realtime face to face chemistry.


years have slipped away, and there is always an excuse ready to keep myself at home alone.


Any tips, or advise on how to make an attempt to being part of "the Scene" again?


Thank you~

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Are there places in your town with open mic nights? Not sure where you're located, but my city has tons of those. Have you looked into MeetUp?
NerviousPDX
NerviousPDX
Hi thank you for reaching out :) I have found a couple of those specific options - its just bothersome to think of how I will go alone, and be a quiet nervous weirdo, who will be anxiously improvising in front of strangers. This is what I want, but the frayed nerves prompt me to come up with convenient excuses to just stay home.,,
How can I put people at ease while being a nervous wreck?
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Have you tried going to these places yet? I think a good start would be to go alone, or with a friend, but alone is fine.... and just... watch. You don't have to start playing the first time going. Check out the places, sit down and enjoy some music, and I think you will just have a feeling which place you feel comfortable enough to start playing :) No rush... take your time, there is no pressure. You've waited this long, what's a little more? You will be fine!
NerviousPDX
NerviousPDX
This sounds good to me. I like how you think. Thank you very much!
Scott44
Scott44
You sound a lot like me. I'm taking guitar lessons but i'm also good enough to play in a band. The problem is finding people I would gel with, especially at my age. I mostly play hard rock and metal but at 45 finding people in this age group would very difficult who are into the same kind of music.

Eventually I plan writing my own music and putting it on youtube but being in a band would be so much more satisfying.
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