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Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder, often precipitated by the fear of having a panic attack in a setting from which there is no easy means of escape. As a result, sufferers of agoraphobia may avoid public and/or unfamiliar places. In severe cases, the sufferer may become confined to their home, experiencing difficulty traveling from this "safe place."

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A coworker wanting to hang out

andi0828
andi0828
I have been working at a pharmacy for almost two years now. I have hung around them maybe two times outside if work. Well one of the girls had seen somethings on my Facebook and said I need to stop being so depressed and that we need a girls night out. I know I honestly do because last time i had girl time we both had our kids so that doesn't really count. Just thinking a about it it makes me so nervous. I don't know what to do to deal with it I want to but then again id rather do what I always do and say no thanks...
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is a double-edged sword to me. If you don't go out with them then you might become a target for their gossiping. If you join them but don't really fit in with their group or you want to bail early then you, again, might become a target. Add to the mix your own social anxiety and it becomes questionable if there are really any merits to going out with them or anyone else from the office where you already spend 40-hrs/week in their midst.

I used to feel pressured to go out especially on the dreaded Friday and Saturday nights when, according to society, only losers sit at home alone. But I eventually learned to follow my heart and do what makes me most comfortable.

Follow your heart, no one else will. But as a side note, I would be careful about what you share on your FB unless you really want everyone to know about it. Opening yourself up to everyone just leaves you more exposed in the end. A simple but true statement.
looney1
looney1
Sounds a good idea, but be honest about the fact that you probably couldn't cope with anything too wild. Just a meal at a restaurant or something like that. If they want something different, bow out gracefully.
itsallgood
itsallgood
What did you decide to do andi0828?
laurie32
laurie32
I think if you feel like going out with them. Have fun. It up to you on what you want to do. No one can make you do something you do not want to do. Rember be your shelf. That will go far. Do not be something you are not. Let them get to know the real you. If they do not like it then they was not your friend in the frist place.
andi0828
andi0828
So I still have yet to go out and I don't think it's going to happen. She hasn't wen brought it up or even talked about doing anything since. I know I might sound dumb but I would rather stay at home then go out and deal with that awkawrdness.
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