Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.

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Is it normal?

Nubianbeautiee89
Nubianbeautiee89

I've been celibate for almost three years, and I have gotten to the point that i'm not sexually fueled by men. Find them attractive always but not flirty or turned on and i been feeling like this maybe after the first few months into it. Someone please help me out with this stuff!

arfie
arfie
Normal? Here in the turbo charged sexuality of the 21st century, there is nothing whatsoever about "Normal" about committing celibacy.

But out here on the wild side, it's okay to view men as more than handsome faces attached to penile life support systems. Relax and flow with it and you just might discover that there are more flavors of love than "making love."

So it seems to me. . .

Gentle support while you sort your own, Nubian.
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
who knows maybe, your lesbian, you only know why you feel the way you do about men. think about it deeply and find your answers why you chose not to be with them for years.
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
sorry didnt realize where i was, didnt know there was a group like this. and its about Abstinence, hmmm...... please explain the thinking around this,, why do you think it helps. Abstinence is not just withholding sex from men, but if your like me its witholding sex from women also. and what is left over after Abstinence is just sex, no love making , it just makes it sex. anyway ill let you people be, im sure you must have a good reason , curious thats all,
arfie
arfie
In my own case, I did not choose celibacy. It was forced on me in my 50s by injuries sustained from child sex trafficking. Total *no fair* but . . . Insert *radical acceptance* here. . .

It has felt like a tragic loss to my husband and I. Girl howdy we had a great sex life, but. . . well. . . How radical is it that we are still together, despite that tragedy? The rare and precious folks who *choose* celibacy have been my lifeline in the decade-plus since. The reasons they have given me for their choice are remarkably diverse. I will let them speak for themselves, if or when they choose.
Nubianbeautiee89
Nubianbeautiee89
Hello you guys thank you so much for your responses to my post. However I am straight never have been lesbian. But thank you all.
sallimae76
sallimae76
You are normal. Society can't accept that there are people without sex drives that want to stay celibate. We are a threat to them.
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