I have a very high anger threshold. But only for myself, It takes an awful lot to make me personnally angry, however I find that I get very angry over injustice to others which is a bit odd! I can have loads of things happen that would make anyone scream with anger and I'm fine then something ridiculously little will trigger an outburst of unrivalled temper! I do now realise that if I deal with the little issues Idont explode when something small happens! I also found step 10 so good in identifying where anger is in my life and the different ways it comes out in me, such as, jelousy, dissatisfaction, sarcasm and complaining insessantly!

I know that my own experience of anger is somewhat different to yours because my anger was clear for all to see, except me. Early on in AA people kept saying to me 'Lyn, you are so angry' and I was bewildered because I didn't FEEL angry at all.

I came, through much therapy, to begin to see that I was full of rage - even though I still didn't feel it. Gradually, I did experience it and it scared the hell out of me, but it set me on the road to freedom from it. These days, I don't get angry very often and if I do, I can recognise it for what is is, so that I can work on it using the spiritual principles within the 12 step programme.

I am a firecracker by nature but, using spiritual principles, I have managed to learn how to stop being like that and have toned it down a lot, much to the relief of many. My son tells me I am really laid back these days - he monitors my progress ya know ... Lol

To become angry is to be human. To never get angry seems a bit unnatural to me. Like I am burying everything which eventually leads to a total meltdown or explosion.
Anger is a result of fear and all of us have fears of some sort no matter how much faith we have and how many times we work the steps and practice principles we remain human and as such will always be flawed in someway. the program allows us to cut down on those flaws and grow spiritually, but we will never be perfect or free of our humanity.

JMO

Before AA my anger policy was to stuff it , stuff it, stuff it.... then grab em by the neck over nothing when it finally blew!
Assertion is much tougher than aggression.

When I learned how to stop my mind in meditation as described in;

Eckhart Tolle's "Power of Now"
Deepak Chopra's "The Gap"
and Zen Buddhism's "Zazen"

I found release from care, anger, boredom and worry.

For me, being "free of anger", at least so far, does not mean being anger-free, and I have a *lot* of it ... and maybe to somehow make up for a lack of emotion in other departments? Or, maybe something is wrong with my emotion-distribution system? I do not know. But like you, Blues, almost all of it is over injustice to others.

How do I deal with it?

"Be ye angry, and sin not -- let not the sun go down upon your wrath -- neither give place to the evil one." (Ephesians 4:26-27)

Or in different words: "Our very lives ... depend upon our constant thought of others ...", and not how to put them out of our misery!

Anger.....hmmmmmn. Those around me would say I am more to the point and sarcastic which others can take to be aggressive if they do not know me. I guess I just don't mince words (unless I am justifying! haha). I do not realise that and then I can see someone's face and think 'ut-oh'.

One thing I have realised by being in AA was that, like Blues, I was good at feeling for others but not for myself. I used to be able to express easy for you but ask me how I was feeling and you would get the 'ok' we all know so well.

My parents do say I am a completely different person nowadays (we are reborn) and that I am much more mellow; that I am more laid back; not so on the go and more controlled so the 12 step programme is working :)

I guess this too is about acceptance for me that I am me and not who I think others want me to be.

Nicky, one ex I dated didn't get angry....then he would have the smallest thing happen and a volcano would erupt. That was just the way he was. We just accepted him that way. No big deal (just run when his pencil breaks......)

I am angry with everything and everybody and dont know how to control it

smoking helps, but unfortunatly it may kill you too, so if you dont already maybe not good idea.
but i think i would rather not be as angry at moment, i may give up when i hit 5 years sober.
its normal to have extreme emotions for few years into soriety, if we drank through our teens, i believe i emotions go on hold until we stop drinking,
And what are teens " angry with the world!!"
we just have to keep sober and we grow out of it, whilst minmising damage to others by checking in with sponser what are our plans.

Yes Alice the average smoker gets to eliminate about 14 years worth of anger.!

My anger drinkin ,sometimes was very calculated and at other times off the wall as small things made it erupt. It was a control issue for myself and what I wanted to get from others. It got even weirder and more noticeable to others after I got sober and I was called on it (by others) sometimes in a not so loving way( in my reality)..Being emotionally unavailable too my feeling ,caused alot of problems, but I just addressed once I knew it , like Serenity explained
Billy

I sometimes wish i didnt feel anger, but than where would i be today if i didnt have the anger.

I find music is a good way of letting out anger that way is safe for me lol

>> I am angry with everything and everybody and dont know how to control it

Your honesty puts my own to shame, Nikki, and that means you are either hurting worse than I or you are more hopeful about someone truly having a solution to offer.

I was honest in my post where I said almost all of my anger is over injustice to others, but the rest of it is over having been deceived into the manner of living that ultimately led to my having to come here seeking relief. Why didn't anyone see where I was headed a long time ago and at least try to let me know about all the danger and deadly trouble ahead? Why did the people I trusted so much end up proving to be little more than empty shells themselves? Why did my parents ever tell me about "Satan Claws" and then encourage my belief in him? Why do my five grandchildren now face life in a world even far more insane than it was when I got started 60 years ago? Why are so many people in today's AA still chippying around with "the God thing" while I so desperately need the kind of fellowship we can read about in our book? Why, why, why ... and I bet you could easily finish my list for me.

Nikki, controlling our anger is not something we can do any more than we can keep from vomiting when we have the flu. But just like with our drinking, there really is a way to be free ... and it is not by trying some silly nonsense like "Just don't be angry, one day at a time."

The Steps are the solution, Nikki, and you can PM me and I will glady give you a hand if you cannot find anyone else closer to you, wherever you might be.

Anger, like guilt, lust etc are not inherently evil. Where would we be without them . If I'm wealking down the street and you punch me and I don't get angry: I'm pretty much dead. I mean I respect Ghandi, but I ain't trying to be him!
Anger is normal, we way we tended to deal with it was not. Change wqe must or die.