dontdeservethis
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- Well I may have come across some of my ED's reasons/rationale for alienating me.After her ex boyfriend left his basement apt in her home, he left behind a letter addressedto me stating her stories. There were 3 major complaints and every one of them...
- My ED is kind of in a bind and DH and I are helping her out.She's taken a job in another city and has to take care of the house she's bought here in this town. We've decided to help her by cleaning, painting and renting it out for her sort of like...
- After a few short stilted texts messages, my ED actually called me on the cell and talked for almost an hour!She had recently broke up with her BF which I always suspected was at the root of our estrangement.It's been over a year since I last spoke...
- In a moment of weakness I sent my ED an inexpensive sweater for her Bday with a short note that says: Happy Birthday from Mom & Dad.I know I'm going to regret doing that. Somehow she's going to turn it around, although right now I can't figure out...
- My ED is an only child. So if she doesn't want to be my daughter anymore, does that mean I'm not a mother anymore?Is this like a divorce or maybe death?Well, when someone asks if I have kids, can I say no? If someone asks ED about her mother, I...
- I was visualizing the old slyvester and tweety cartoons with tweety bird in the cage.I realized that I was tweety bird and the cage was 'motherhood'. For almost thirty years I have defined myself as being a mother, now that ED has cut all ties, I...
- Well, slowly but surely I'm moving through the house doing some Spring cleaning.What would you advise to do with my ED's things?There are two or three major categories; Memorabilia from when she was sweet (not getting rid of), memorabilia from when...
- I've noticed that my ED seems to find mother/father figures in her acquaintances. Once she even said to my face that 'you know ___ is like a mother to me' (ouch). Also on one Mother's Day three years ago, she went to a lot of trouble to print out...
- I am still very puzzled at how our EC's can completely forget all of the good years/times they had growing up.I can't seem to forget, how can they?(It would be much easier if I could forget)I mean is it like the movie 'Total Recall' where their...
- Hello to all! I'm wondering what you guys do for a hobby (maybe not the right word, maybe interests)?I'm looking for ideas for my new/next life phase without ED......So far all I've come up with is fishing for the upcoming summer season, as I used...
- In the spirit of the Estranged Poem post, I'd like to creat a 'Declaration/Proclamation' statement.Because with me, I usually do nothing by halves so to speak.I really don't know exactly what I'm saying, but I think I'm changing my mind about 'the...
- Please tell me your opinion ( I need perspective ) thanks:ED sent me the following message,oWOW! You're never going to change... The thought that I haven't had the time to check facebook because I was changing jobs never came across your mind. Ya,...
- What are you doing about old photos of your EC growing up?At first I pulled many significant ones with the thought of copying them and sending them on to ED to showher evidence of her 'horrible' life (pony rides, disney world, camping, and more).Now...
- After sending my ED three FB messages (benign) that were all ignored, this morning I sent her this message:This on/off thing hurts us way too much. Let's go back to being estranged (until the day you want a real relationship with us) shall we? Good...
- I was wondering if you would share things that help you make it through the day.Lately I've been listening to music and that helps alot.Coming here helps.Ideas?Thanks,Jan