You know it's time to change ...
You know it's time to change when they catch you reading their posts on Facebook. I was reading my exs new wifes Facebook posts and accidentally hit "like" on one of her posts - that stupid button is too close to seeing the comments on the posts. So I panicked and unlike it immediately. Not fast enough I guess. She just made a comment about how sad it was for someone to stalk her on Facebook. So I think I'm ready to block seeing anything she writes. Since I'm friends with his daughter ans she is friends with the new wife, I see them ifshe comments on her post. So I am ready to stop knowing anything about them. His sister-in-law stopped by to talk and I learned more about my ex. I was with this man for 10 years and he hid so much from me. Obviously I'm better off without him, but I miss having someone to talk with and go places with. I picture him the way I knew him and get sad, so I force myself to go over all I have learned about him to remind myself this man isn't the man I think I knew. It's almost scary thinking I lived with him. My therapist said he sounds borderline sociopathic after I tell her what I learn every week from one of his relatives. But, I think I'm ready to start cutting off contact. No more checking Facebook to see what he's doing. A step in the right direction.
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Lol, omg I just died when you said that u accidentally hit that button. I stalked a guy I've known for years, long story short he got a new gf two years ago, he is the guy that "got away" for me, so the reason I look is just to see what's new with him. So just the other day I sent him another text, I don't hide mine, lol and he finally posted a picture of the new gf, so although I looked at the picture and was a little taken back, I got the point. He never posts pictures of him and his gf, so this was my hint to leave him alone. Lol, so now I got it. I was bold though I didn't hide it, and I guess he had to show me. Let's just say I've lost my dignity when it comes to this guy. We were just lovers though, it was always when I broke up I would run back to him when he broke up he would come back to me, so it was a lot of back and forth but never a real relationship, sorry to rant on but I know how you feel but you did have something with him and I agree, it's over, you do need to move on. But it's ok, most of us do it, just won't admit to it. Take care Hun, it's hard to wrap ur mind around an ending, but If we didn't have endings we wouldn't have new beginnings. Hugs. I'm sorry this is hard for you. It will get better.
Hugs, so you liked one of her posts. I would have send her a happy face too. Just to tick them off. Can you imagine the shock on her face when she saw that. Priceless. I would just either unfollow them or block. Either way, you will not be getting anymore message from them. Just chalk that one up for experience.