why is life so difficult?
been talking again to the lady I've been haveing a LDR with and recently broke up... I thought it was best to not make any decisions right now and wait until after the summer... dispite what has happened with us I still think she would be the best thing to happen to me.. so in the meantime I have some personel things I need to take care of... after this summer I will have less stress since I have time to deal with a few things and I would be thinking with a clearer head... I need to get my life back on track
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Oh man what are you thinking. You're clutching at stability, but what you're clutching at is poisonous. You think she would be the best thing to happen to you. Well that is the line she's going to give you - so that she can get what SHE wants from YOU. And what is that? you may well ask. And who's going to pay to raise her kids? And who's going to have custody of them? Is she going to walk away from them? Do you REALLY want a woman who walks away from her children? Or are you going to be daddy now. You're going to steal another man's kids?
What makes you think you're her 'soulmate' and her husband isn't? What do you think she told her husband five or 10 yrs ago? She laid all that out for him, too. And now she's spun you a yarn about how tough it is to be her, how unfeeling her husband is to her, probably tells a story of how he won't sleep with her (makes her pure for you, a born again virgin, part of the fantasy) and tells you everything you want to hear to trigger you into being her knight in shining armour.
You need to run. Don't walk: run. this woman is not who you think she is at all. You get the pretty side aimed at you from a distance. Easy to do. With the story massaged to suit you. You do not get the real her because the real her only exists in space and time, in the flesh. Her husband knows the real her. Her husband gets the real her. And you have no idea what her marriage is like from her husband's perspective. But you will in a few years when she gets bored with you and finds someone new.
There. I've said it. Not impressed. Don't you dare buckle under pressure. She's another man's wife and she's cheating on you as much as him. She's a cheat, and a betrayer, and an abuser of her children. You're a fool to consider her anything better than 'worst possible option'
I talked to my sister today and she gave me a look at a life I can have back home where I can get a house and have family around... with her I would be alone...
the life back home is better not only for me but for my son too...