Thoughts on...Apology (ies) (ists)

This is my first thoughts so i decided to explain apology in the effect if i piss anyone off in later thoughts. 

the question asked: What is an Apologist is it:

A: A Greek God's daughter

B: A masochistic person who's regretful acknowlegement of an offence or failure in which they must kowtow or humilitae themselves

 in hope for forgiveness from the affected person(s)

C: A Rapper

D: A sincere defence of ones own belief and passive acknowlegemnt of indivdual disagreements.

E: None of the above (If your a Nihlist)

F: 42 (Hitchhikers guide ultimate answer) 

The answer is: D (well and E...and F)

An Apology comes from the latin word 'Aplologia': a defence of one's opinions, positions, or actions. the key word 'defence'.

An apologist is someone who has beliefs and will defend them with out attack. they wont ridicule another for thier own beliefs even if diametrically opposed. 

So to use a hot-bed topic: I believe a Man should be with a Woman.

so how many read that and accused me of being a homophobic? How many agreed and felt ire towards another? How many think i hate gays now? I don't, in fact it is a non-issue to me of anothers ideals. How many now hate me because i said that? the 'Not my problem' attitude. It only becomes a problem when it affects me individually, like telling me i must teach my son something different. then i defend my belief. If my son was gay I'd love him all the same...he's my son, not a statistic.

Well, i apologize and mean that utterly sincere because i understand that i have an opinion but my opinion isn't attacking yours. It is my belief and mine alone. i dont attack any others for thier belief and that is what an apolgy used to mean. Passive acceptance in the right to disagree. to peacfully go without judgement or ridicule of anothers understanding. 

I bring this up because i feel so many think of an apology as the answer B from above. You have to admit your wrong and feel failure to another, a defeat in having to accept anothers ideals or beliefs. that's not an apology but many think it is and find it damn near impossible to give one to another and continue in an argument or disagreement to the point of hostility to another. If you accept the true meaning of an apolgy then you find them much easier to give and diffuse situations into rational talking and acceptance. your not admitting thier right and your wrong. you just accpet the difference and continue in your own understanding. 

Being an apologitst can defend your beliefs without warring against others. keeping them safe and secure in your heart, never used as weapons against another. the empathic power (hello O!!!! thanks for being my muse) behind a heartfelt aplogy can be blissfully cleansing to someone you have issues with and sooooo rewarding. This is what the Bible means to me when saying to forgive, not in a 'I'm right and your wrong' idea. But an understanding that we are all human and unique, love each other for who we are, never hate for what we believe...Love