They say!!!
They say. It Gets Better...
They say: Time Heals All Wounds...
They say: Stay Busy
They say: Don't Cry...
They say: Get A Job...
They say: They are in a better Place..
They say: I just don' want you to be sad...
They say: But I just don't know what to say...
They say: I just want the old you back...
They say: Get over it...
They say: Your Faith was just not strong enough...
They say: But....
They say: Just anything you need...
They say...They say....They say....They say...They say...
THEY SAY: I SAY: YOU NEVER LOST A CHILD!!!!!
They say: walks away as They say: Call Me as They say:walks out of sight to their Clueless Life of What A Mom Feels when Her child Dies
They say: Time Heals All Wounds...
They say: Stay Busy
They say: Don't Cry...
They say: Get A Job...
They say: They are in a better Place..
They say: I just don' want you to be sad...
They say: But I just don't know what to say...
They say: I just want the old you back...
They say: Get over it...
They say: Your Faith was just not strong enough...
They say: But....
They say: Just anything you need...
They say...They say....They say....They say...They say...
THEY SAY: I SAY: YOU NEVER LOST A CHILD!!!!!
They say: walks away as They say: Call Me as They say:walks out of sight to their Clueless Life of What A Mom Feels when Her child Dies
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\"I say\" let them just keep walking and I\'ll surround myself with those who don\'t \"say\" but stay long enough to hear my heart.
Thank goodness those that \"say\" don\'t know this path and I can only hope that they never will or there won\'t be much they\'re able to \"say\" any longer...
No words left to \"say\" just a lot of loving care always from one who walks this path with you.
XO Joanie
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So true.
I know...no one can understand any of this unless they have been through it. To be fair, it is very difficult to talk to a grieving mother...I will admit that, most of the time the things that come out of people\'s mouths make me wonder how they find their way home everyday. People can be so stupid. I think they just feel like they have to say SOMETHING, and it\'s usually something idiotic. But as I said, it isn\'t easy dealing with us. Why can\'t they just let us tell them how we are feeling without trying to explain it or offer unsolicited advice or trying to make sense of it!!! There is no sense to be made of it!!! I think it is their fear...I think in appearing to try to reassure us they are trying to figure out how and why it happened to distance themselves from any sort of situation in which it could happen to them. Do you know what I mean??? It\'s like they are trying to find the reasons why it happened to us so they can prevent it happening to them and they just end up hurting us and pissing us off. I wrote a long message on facebook last week practically begging folks to STOP telling me it wasn\'t my fault. That is between me and my daughter and my God. I end up pretending to agree just to shut them up and it feels like I am swallowing poison. The truth is, it is partially my fault. How much, I don\'t even know...but what does it really matter??? My daughter, my baby, is gone.
How lucky they are that they don\'t know what it is like to loss your child. Hugs. Kathy
Yeah, I hear you - who the hell are \" they\" anyway......
((((((((((((Sandi)))))))))) \"They\" will never understand a\" Mothers\" (Pain/grief)....
those \"\"\"they\"\" people should all go away!!!
They don\'t know HOW lucky they are...
They don\'t know. And as Connie said, they don\'t know how lucky they are.
Walking this painful road with you.
Love and hugs,
Marlene
They: do not understand ! or feel !
We walk the walk and will take anyone\'s hand who needs it hug anyone who needs and cry with everyone. We are the survivors we KNOW !
Tight Hugs Penny
Well I \"say\" : So Long, I don\'t need those \"sayers\" in my life
I \"say\": Bye Bye, have a nice life - may you never know the pain I feel
I \"say\": My give a darn button is still not repaired...so
I \"say\" Here\'s a quarter - please call someone else who might understand YOUR problem
I \"say\" I gotta go to my sisters of the heart who truly understand - close the door on the way out....
Okay, I\'m done - I have had all those things said to me as we all have - so thankful for you....for reminding me just how special you are all!!! Sending ((hugs)) to you tonite. Vicki
Our culture is not taught how to comfort those grieving. Sadly, it is us, the grieving, who must teach those around us how WE need to be treated, cared for, talked to, etc. And it\'s our responsibility to walk away from anyone who is unable to give us what we need in order to help us on our journey toward healing. Fair? NO. But it is what it is.....
Tight, understanding hugs my friend~~
This post is so true! Those who say so much, actually know nothing!!! Yet they keep on saying and saying and saying ..........!!