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NO MORE ENSURE!!! Jill took me off my Ensure supplements today!!! Just enlive now!!!!
That was my good news of the day. Other good news is that I had dinner with a friend from Reflections- though I don’t think I’m going to do that again. She doesn’t shut up and I just can’t deal with her one on one.
When I got home I noticed that Carlos’ bike was not here, but his helmet and car keys were. Obviously he rode his bike somewhere. Then I remembered he said his mom was going to take him to dinner. Bottomline he rode his new bike to his mothers house (like 5 miles). I didn’t care that he rode his bike and went there, it just really bothers me that he did NOT wear his helmet. He has scars from riding his bike in High School.
He asked me to pick him up. I said I would have to drive his car and that I had just changed into pj’s and was not going to put on real clothes. He told me to put on clothes. I was pissed. I changed my pants and put on a hoodie and left. I also told him that I did not want to go inside when I picked him up. He asked me ‘what’s your deal?’ First off, who says that to their wife? Some nicer words could have been used. I told him I am tired of people and don’t want to see anyone. When I got him and we were driving home (he drove home) he said something along the lines of, you didn’t have to pick me up, my mother could of driven me home. Well wouldn’t that of been fucking nice to of known BEFORE I drove there. I didn’t want to fucking go in the first god damn mother fucking place.
When we got home just a few minutes ago, I sat down at my desk to finish what I was doing prior to leaving and Carlos threw a paper on my desk saying, “here is the list my mom made”. This is the list I had asked to be completed by Sept 1st for our wedding. A list of people I wanted her to give me with names of people, number of people in that family that would be invited, and put them in order of who HAS to be invited and the one’s that could be left out if we had too many people we wanted to invite. I also asked her to list them in order of importance and tell me which ones’ most likely will not come because of the distance. What did I get? A piece of paper with names handwritten on it. Yes they are numbered 1-19…but in addition to some names, next to it is says & Family. Well how many are in that fucking family? Then Carlos tells me that his mom said that not all of them may come because of tickets etc and will wait for the invitation. AHHHHH This is NOTHING near what I asked for. I needed an ESTIMATE. Is she a FUCKING IDIOT!? And Carlos too for that matter.
I am so fucking pissed off. Upset. Crying. Hating myself. I just want to fucking scream and rip someone’s god damn head off right now.
And to boot….I think carlos walked in and went to bed. Nothing like how was your day, thank you for picking me up, lets watch tv, NOTHING.
That was my good news of the day. Other good news is that I had dinner with a friend from Reflections- though I don’t think I’m going to do that again. She doesn’t shut up and I just can’t deal with her one on one.
When I got home I noticed that Carlos’ bike was not here, but his helmet and car keys were. Obviously he rode his bike somewhere. Then I remembered he said his mom was going to take him to dinner. Bottomline he rode his new bike to his mothers house (like 5 miles). I didn’t care that he rode his bike and went there, it just really bothers me that he did NOT wear his helmet. He has scars from riding his bike in High School.
He asked me to pick him up. I said I would have to drive his car and that I had just changed into pj’s and was not going to put on real clothes. He told me to put on clothes. I was pissed. I changed my pants and put on a hoodie and left. I also told him that I did not want to go inside when I picked him up. He asked me ‘what’s your deal?’ First off, who says that to their wife? Some nicer words could have been used. I told him I am tired of people and don’t want to see anyone. When I got him and we were driving home (he drove home) he said something along the lines of, you didn’t have to pick me up, my mother could of driven me home. Well wouldn’t that of been fucking nice to of known BEFORE I drove there. I didn’t want to fucking go in the first god damn mother fucking place.
When we got home just a few minutes ago, I sat down at my desk to finish what I was doing prior to leaving and Carlos threw a paper on my desk saying, “here is the list my mom made”. This is the list I had asked to be completed by Sept 1st for our wedding. A list of people I wanted her to give me with names of people, number of people in that family that would be invited, and put them in order of who HAS to be invited and the one’s that could be left out if we had too many people we wanted to invite. I also asked her to list them in order of importance and tell me which ones’ most likely will not come because of the distance. What did I get? A piece of paper with names handwritten on it. Yes they are numbered 1-19…but in addition to some names, next to it is says & Family. Well how many are in that fucking family? Then Carlos tells me that his mom said that not all of them may come because of tickets etc and will wait for the invitation. AHHHHH This is NOTHING near what I asked for. I needed an ESTIMATE. Is she a FUCKING IDIOT!? And Carlos too for that matter.
I am so fucking pissed off. Upset. Crying. Hating myself. I just want to fucking scream and rip someone’s god damn head off right now.
And to boot….I think carlos walked in and went to bed. Nothing like how was your day, thank you for picking me up, lets watch tv, NOTHING.
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I am sorry Steph - that sucks. Unfortunately guys don\'t get it and you sound very overwhelmed. If you need him to help you with the wedding stuff then I would tell him. Sucks that you have to treat them like children but it is needed most of the time as they just don\'t have a clue. That is pretty rude that that he made you come out and then told you after the fact that his mom could have driven him. Nice.
My hubby used to ride his motorcycle on real short trips without the helmet until I told him how worried it made me that he might hurt himself. I was not mad or shitty about it - I just told him that it would mean a lot to me if he could wear it when he went out, even on short trips. That made all the difference and he will even do it if he is just going up the street to test the bike out. Maybe that might work with Carlos? I know he doesn\'t want you to worry and if he knows it is coming from concern and not a controlling way then I bet he will go out of his way to do what you ask.
Hang in there sweetie :)
Thanks love. Regarding the whole helmet issue, I did put it in a nice way- I just bitched about it on here lol. I told him that it worried me and it would make me feel more comfortable if he wore it, he didn\'t give a shit. He said he\'s not mountain biking so it doesn\'t matter. I know someone who got killed riding a bike, actually two people. So my nerves are always going to be there :(
wy is carlos being this way, with the list, making you come get him, i would of worn my pj\'s anyways, when his mom would have and importantly with the helmet. i dont blame you for being upset, worried and concerned, you dont have to go far to fall. i wish he would be more responsible. hugss
Yeah, no more Ensure, that is frikking awesome. Sorry the rest of your day was so sucky. Totally agree with you on the helmet issue. Accidents happen everywhere, 2 miles from your home or 200 miles from your home.
The list is pathetic. Looks like you need to go over there and walk her through the whole thing. But before you do that please take a deep breath and put your potty mouth on mute. I know it\'s gonna be a challenge. Sorry.
potty mouth? me? pft no way karin ;)