Niece's disclosure
My heart broke today. Hearing her pain, her confessions. I knew she was raped by her step father; there's a police report. I knew she'd be traumatized from it. But to see myself in her as she talked about it... As she talked about cutting her hair instead of her wrists. How her mom's boyfriend is bordering on abusive to her mom, how she doesn't feel safe at her own home... How she barely eats... She has one more year of school and plans to move out after - she'll probably move in here. She's so broken. So like me. She aays she has night terrors - I'm afraid to sleep because I'm worried she'll have one and be afraid. She suffers insomnia from it too. She needs proper trauma therapy, like I had. I don't think she's ready yet. She needs to feel safe first. Hearing her say she doesn't trust people or relationships, that she won't have sex for a long time because she's so traumatized from being raped... She spoke of it the way I did when I finally was ready for help. I think this is her asking for help. She's here for the weekend - I just hope I can help her feel safe. Set up a code word, one that says she needs out, a ride, an escape. Whatever she needs, I need to be it.
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