Just damed if I do, damned if I don't.
I swear I can't seem to do anything right. I can't even be offended properly.
A family member and I had a little disagreement and of couse I always feel like I should be the one to apologize even if I am the one that really should be indignant. So I apologize after SHE spoke out of line to me and now she's ignoring me. REALLY??? I just don't have time for this.
These past four days with no power have been particularly depressing, though I understand why we shouldn't sleep with the tv. I may continue that.
I just want to go away. On an island somewhere. I always seem to be offending people or getting my feelings hurt, and for someone like me that is just enough and too much. I have way too much on my plate to deal with this right now.
Speaking of plates.......I lost ALL my food during the power otage. I won't even ask what's next.
A family member and I had a little disagreement and of couse I always feel like I should be the one to apologize even if I am the one that really should be indignant. So I apologize after SHE spoke out of line to me and now she's ignoring me. REALLY??? I just don't have time for this.
These past four days with no power have been particularly depressing, though I understand why we shouldn't sleep with the tv. I may continue that.
I just want to go away. On an island somewhere. I always seem to be offending people or getting my feelings hurt, and for someone like me that is just enough and too much. I have way too much on my plate to deal with this right now.
Speaking of plates.......I lost ALL my food during the power otage. I won't even ask what's next.
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I\'m glad you\'re back on here! You do have too much on your plate. All last week was tough enough for someone without our regular problems and you\'ve gone through it alone. You\'re caring and sensitive. In my mind those qualities are hard to separate. Then after all you give, you don\'t get it back. That hurts everyone\'s feelings. You know you have friends who care on here, so your not alone. Call or write if you want to talk. I\'m here for you. Many, many gentle warm hugs.
Thanks hopeless. Can I have your name now???? *sigh*
I\'m doing something wrong or I\'m cursed. Never any love or reciprication.
I know how you feel. Electrical outage has to be tuff!!!I hope things get better!!My feelings get hurt a lot. You are neither cursed or doing wrong. We just are sensitive people who feel things so deeply.
Yes annieheart! I have been told that I was sensitive by people, but in a way to shame me, like a character flaw or a sin. It is so good to talk to folks that feel as I do without feeling shame and judgement.
That is a terrible situation, particularly regarding the weather... I am sorry you are going through so much... I tell you, those flaming arrows can be so passive agressive they can be easy to miss... Clearly, to me, there is bitterness there and unless that person wishes to communicate about it, all you can do is put that fire out and deflect that arrow... I hope you find tht beautiful place within yourself, or through meditation, somehow someway... I have often felt as if I wish to run away, but truly there is no where to go without myself tagging along... Be well...
LilaOlivia that is so funny and so TRUE!!! I will always be tagging along!! My mind, my emotions everything will follow me to even the most beautiful tropical island!!! I do need to get ME together!! Well said.
You know, I have found that most people are trying to deflect the wrong kind if attention from themselves. This wrong attention is mostly because they are afraid their own flaws can be seen. This is soooooooo stupid. You are sensitive because you have been hurt too many times. I can relate. You are afraid you might hurt some one like you were hurt. That is not something I don\'t want to think about. I get anxious I might hurt someone like I was hurt. Words can be more hurtful than most think. Or maybe they do know.
Well, anyway, know that those hurtful words make a sour feel in other\'s mouth. Let them wash off your outside and inside.
I know! Easier said, than done. Words, especially for someone I care for, hurt. Deeply!
Hey girl! Hope today things are a little better for you. Being sensitive is a great quality. That\'s what makes your responses to posts so good. You are able to see through the words others say and sense the feeling that is really going on, but not out rightly spoken or written. You need to remember how good you are and if someone is out of line, leave it to them to get right. Don\'t let them throw their negative feelings into you. I wish I could make you get just a little mean, but then you wouldn\'t be you. The very special you. Much love,
I find myself overly sensitive to being treated poorly as well. Even when the other person\'s opinion is not really important to me. I resent playing their words over and over again in my head when I would much prefer to simply put it right out of my mind. For myself I know it\'s partly OCD and the obsessive thinking that comes with it.
I wish I had some great advice about how to deal with it. I will talk it over with friends but mostly I think time is needed to get past it. Hugs Kelley
Mary Turk, that was soooo right!!!!!! I\'m sensitive because I HAVE been hurt SO much!!! Thank you!! hopeless1955, you know that I really need to let them straighten it out! I guess I\'m scared I\'ll make the wrong decision by not doing something about it. Ugh!
Yess KelleyPatterson, I\'ve been thinking about possible OCD for me. I play things over and over and over and over and over and over....... Yes just like that!! It becomes maddening! I have acted super quick on folks like immediately blocking them on facebook. I don\'t think that I should be so quick to act, but I know that it\'s some kind of defense mechanism.
Ugh!!! Whatever to do in this life!!!! Take it day by day I guess!! Huggggsssss!!!!!!!
OR EWVEN MOMENT BY MOMENT.
About a week ago I was very hurt by something my daughter did. Then, within an hour she text me to apologize. You never know!!!
Glad you have the ability to get online. So sorry to hear that all your food went bad. Shame it couldn\'t be kept cold out in the snow :/
((Hugs))
Yes Mary Turk, I know that how we feel can and does change if we let time go by. I am learning that acting in the moment is seldom good. I\'m glad you and you\'re daughter got over the misunderstanding!!! That\'s really wonderful!
amelah, where were you last week?? lol!!!! All that ice we had and not once did I think to use it and put it in the freezer! Shaking my head!!!