It still made me sad....
I ran into his sister-in-law and I specifically did not ask about him. I was actually a little bummed I ran into her as I've been trying not to think of him so much. After sharing all the family news she mentions that he's having a house built in the south and will be moving in September. It's been 8 months, he's married now, and it still was incredibly painful to hear. I don't know what I thought, that he would run back to me saying it was all a horrible mistake, beg me to take him back... I won't. I know I deserve better. But it still hurt that his life is going on and I am still working on moving on. There is a country song out now called something like -I wish you were a better man. The words fit so perfect. I wonder where we would be if you had been a better man. I gave you my best, but you can't say the same. Sometimes music can be right on the money! Now that the weather is finally nicer I am working on finding activities to get me out of the house. I need to start helping others and stop thinking of myself. As Dorie say- just keep swimming.....
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Hang in there..it takes time..crazy how much time for the one who got the shaft. Any contact hurts for a bit even indirect contact like this. Just shake it off and remain focused on yourself and your awesome life ahead!
Hugs my friend. Please be gentle with yourself. Let him be. He has nothing, zip, nada. Any relationship that has its foundation based on cheating and lying is bound to fail. There is no trust or respect there. There will always be that doubt on their mind, what are they doing, where are they going and whom are they with. Even if they are in the same room, talking to others. She had no right to tell you anything, My kids do not tell my anything about their father and I do not ask. If and when you do see the ex, Smile, turn around and walk away. That nice slow smile of a king cobra ready to strike. It will bother them more than anything that you can say or do.
(((HUGS))) sorry hun. My EX remarried last year....I feel sorry for the new wife. He chose someone he can take advantage of and I'm sure she does not deserve that.