Friday July 29 2011

It's Friday again. I should be excited for the weekend but feeling pretty down again.  I got another email from my supposed father yesterday.  I originally got an email on my birthday.  I have not seen or talked to him since I was thirteen.  He has never been there through any of our struggles...why contact me now?  He is 68 this year ...I bet he's starting to feel pretty old and maybe regretting things he's done.  I guess every little girl wants to be close to her dad.  I think it's one of the reason I have stayed with my boyfriend for so long...it's one of the things I love about him the most is that no matter what he is always there for his girls.  Maybe not sober but he would never think of not being in their lives.  No matter how bad things were between his ex he never gave up. It's not like my dad just walked away though.  It was worse than that...the showing up at the hospital trying to prevent my back surgery..saying he had to live with it all his life so should I.,, the way he not only refused to give my mom any child support but when he found out that welfare would pay it for him while he wasn't working gave it up and told her we'd never see a dime.  I mean my mom got me an early work permit so I could start working at 14 so we could eat...she was already working 3 jobs at the time. 
I still remember when I was sixteen he sent this really expensive arrangement of pink roses to the house...I was so mad and told my mom that is was such a waste..all that money spent and I couldn't eat them or wear them so what good did it do?  I threw them in the trash. 
Wow, I didn't know this was bothering me til I started to type.  Now I feel like i'm going to throw up.

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deleted_user

I\'m sorry for how your bio dad abandoned you.
It\'s true that we always try and fill that father void.
He planted his seed and walked away. This doesn\'t make him
A father. Stand strong and know just because he
Impregnated your mom doesn\'t give him any right to
Have a part in your \"adult \" life. You don\'t owe him
Anything. He sounds controlling and abusive and not a
Healthy person to be around.
Praying God fills his place in your heart. hang in there. : )
Blessings,
Dawn
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deleted_user

Hi My Friend,I have never had a good relationship to this day with my day I have tried thru out the yrs and when Mom passed away he did not even call to say sorry my sister & I our his biologiictal daughters,it is his loss my brother speaks to him not like he used to,he has his other family step sister and brother and half sister & brother,that is who he cares about more his loss.