Fatigue
Okay...is this just some normal phase??? I am feeling very fatigued, sleeping a lot...seems like even very small chores are just too much trouble. I went to a yoga class yesterday and plan on continuing...it forces me out of my house and the yoga itself forces me out of my head, I have to concentrate too hard to balance to worry about anything.
Honestly, I just feel very lazy. I'm not working, not on any kind of schedule that would be sapping my reserves of energy.
I don't eat right...I mean, who really does??? But I have been living on peanut butter, cookies and ice cream for 5 months.
Honestly, I just feel very lazy. I'm not working, not on any kind of schedule that would be sapping my reserves of energy.
I don't eat right...I mean, who really does??? But I have been living on peanut butter, cookies and ice cream for 5 months.
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Yes, gief is an energy sapping condition. It has been almost 3 years, for me and I still have no energy. Everytime I leave my house, I have to force myself to do it. I would rather stay home, in my gown and eat junk food. Lots of the time, I do just that!
Yoga sounds like an excellent idea! My balance annd physical condition wont allow me to do it. Wish there was a yoga, for old, sedentary, out of shape ladies, lol ! It would be nice to get me out of my head!!
BTY..I went to the site, for the arthor of \"You Don\'t Die\". I could never find the link to her meditation, you spoke of. There was no blue box on the page, that I could find. :(
((((HUGS))))....Julia
http://wedontdie.com/reconnections.html
Who really does this? Moms who have lost a child. I lived on peanut butter, ice cream and wine for months. I think fatigue is part of our \"new normal\". It is just the rollercoaster ride, some days better than others. Some weekends I am full of energy and get a lot down. Other weekends I nap a lot. Don\'t judge, do what feels right for you. Sue xo
Yes, the fatigue is normal and so is the cocooning so that you can receive the rest that you so sorely need.
You are trying and by attending yoga that is a step and slowly a few more steps are added in when you are ready.
There are still some days just as the others have said when I feel as if I\'ve been hit by a truck, a huge body slam type of feeling... On those days I try to be as gentle with myself as I can be.
Lots and lots of loving care dear Gina and plenty of rest,
XO Joanie
I feel like everything we do is normal - for us, at least. I read an article that said grief is the hardest work you will ever do - I think actually it was by Ashley Bush who is the retreat speaker, this year - and it\'s so true. Exhausting mentally, physically, every which way. You take good care of yourself and eat all the peanut butter and ice-cream you need, right now ! ( yoga is good, too:)....)
Joanna x
My first thought was exactly what Joanna said, that whatever we do is our \"normal\". I learned that some things just become so unimportant after our child dies. Lately, I have been sleeping an alarming 12 to 14 hours at a stretch (but not without awakening about every 2 hours but I have another reason right now and that is these damn fractured ribs). The yoga classes are great and giving yourself the permission and revving up the energy and determination to go are a step in themselves. I had no option but to return to work within weeks of my son\'s death but had there been one, I probably would have \"cocooned\" for a long time. I ate horribly for the longest time and still am not very good about it! The bottom line is that I think that we plug away at finding what works and what our \"new normal\" will be and sometimes, we just have to make ourselves takes steps that will do exactly what you stated which is focusing our concentration somewhere else. And then we eventually realize that these \"baby steps\" are helping us to take even bigger steps. BTW, peanut butter is good for you, stick some bananas on your sandwich and you will be getting some fruit into you :-).
Peace.
Hi Gina. Unfortunately, it is normal. Grieving is exhausting. I am glad you are getting out to yoga. It is a wonderful way to get fit. relax and get your mind focused on something besides the profound sadmess.
You, my dear, are doing what you need to be doing.
Hugs, Marlenexxxooo
It\'s definitely ok to feel fatigued after what you have gone through. Little by little you will feel some energy returning, but it may be awhile & that\'s ok. Rest as your body tells you it needs it. Sounds like your yoga class may be just what you need right now. You are feeling your way through this journey none of us wanted to be on, but had no choice. Teeny tiny steps are at least in the right direction.....forward. Hugs.....Vicki
Yes...as Marlene pointed out, grief is exhausting. After 5 1/2 yrs. I am still exhausted.
We are making new selves, grief demands it. Our whole world has been knocked on its\' head. Time, it takes time, and getting out once in a while, a small walk, an errand, a class or two, all of this gives us a break from our brooding and is very good.
I started therapy again. Still remaking my self after four years of grief. My son, Jake, was 43 years old and died in his sleep. I\'ve photos of him all over my home. Some days I just have to get out and get out of my head. Love, Abby
I slept and slept and slept that first year. If I wasn\'t sleeping, I was sitting on my couch watching the clouds out my picture window with no sense of time at all. I have spent the last 51/2 years going through periods of busyness and then long periods of complete inaction...I think that it is different for everyone, some people need to be active but, that is not what I experienced and I feel that I needed all that sleep. At the same time, it is good that some people in my life gently prodded me to get out and walk or ride my bike or go to lunch with them. Baby steps and constantly assessing the balance are definitely part of the process.