Does gender really matter?
Whatever gender you are your are normal. Does gender even matter? FUCK NO! Who cares what you are! Be who you are and who you were born to be. Why does one have to be labeled as male or female? I see myself as a person. Yes, I guess I do identify as a woman because I have breasts and a vagina...but who cares? And if one doesn't know, leave them alone.
I like who I want to like. I don't just like men. I don't just like women. I like who I like. I don't consider myself under a label. So I'm married to a man. it's because I LOVE HIM. But that doesn't mean I only like men. I like women too. I have a huge crush on someone right now, which is very difficult for me given my situation. I like this person for who they are. In this case the individual is a she. I like this person because they are who they are. If she was a guy, I'd like him. The outside doesn't matter. Yes one may be attracted to one style over another- but you can't just go on looks. You have to like the inside.
I don't know if this makes any sense...but I hope it does. I have never really said this to anyone. Only one person knows. This is all on the top of my mind because gender roles/issues were brought up in the support group tonight and I fucking blew up. It was interesting!
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Things are very rough at the moment. Support is still minimal. A lot of connections were made today with Joanna in therapy which was good. I have had very strong urges to cut....I have, kinda/sorta. I guess technically yes...but to me not really because I wasn't slicing my body open.
I like who I want to like. I don't just like men. I don't just like women. I like who I like. I don't consider myself under a label. So I'm married to a man. it's because I LOVE HIM. But that doesn't mean I only like men. I like women too. I have a huge crush on someone right now, which is very difficult for me given my situation. I like this person for who they are. In this case the individual is a she. I like this person because they are who they are. If she was a guy, I'd like him. The outside doesn't matter. Yes one may be attracted to one style over another- but you can't just go on looks. You have to like the inside.
I don't know if this makes any sense...but I hope it does. I have never really said this to anyone. Only one person knows. This is all on the top of my mind because gender roles/issues were brought up in the support group tonight and I fucking blew up. It was interesting!
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Things are very rough at the moment. Support is still minimal. A lot of connections were made today with Joanna in therapy which was good. I have had very strong urges to cut....I have, kinda/sorta. I guess technically yes...but to me not really because I wasn't slicing my body open.
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that must have been difficult to share, but totally honest. your right, no one has the rigth to judge who we are, who we like etc.., sadly it isnt always the the world is. i think it would be a good idea to keep talking to joanne about it. very sorry that you cut, what is going on?
You make a big deal explaining how men and women are the same. Well they are not, not physically, not emotionally. Men can\'t have babies and I am glad I am a woman and had the priviledge to experience giving life. That being said I don\'t care who loves whom. I have a crush on Ellen by the way. Straight is as fine as gay as bi. I really don\'t care and think everybody should have the same rights.
Your problem is not that you have a crush on a girl. Your problem is that you are married, ding, ding,ding. And I think you put so much emphasis on everybody being the same, so you don\'t have to deal with maybe emotionally cheating on your husband. That would be a problem, not the fact that you like both genders.