Decision
Help me my dear friends and ladies that understand make a decision. John and I have been invited to a graduation party for one of Josh's friends. Wesley graduated from UNC last weekend and has asked John and I to attend his BBQ on Sunday. Another bitter sweet thing. My mind is telling me that we should attend. Wesley comes to clean ups when he can. John and I had dinner with him at Christmas. But I think the thing that stands out most to me is he stood up and spoke for Josh at the funeral. I will never forget that. I feel like iWeb need to go and represent Josh. I Houston don't know if my heat can take it. So do I put my big girl panties and go or hide at home.
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I wish I had words of wisdom but I don\'t. I believe this is something only you can decide. Just follow your heart and do what Feels right for you.
Tight hugs,
Terry
I am with Terry. Whatever you decide, it will be emotional; but it will the right decision for you. And I think that whatever you decide, Wesley will understand.
I find it so hard to face times like that. It is like rubbing salt in a wound.
Love and hugs,
Marlene
I don\'t think there are any wrong or right answers. Whatever you decide will be right for you now. If not going will make you feel bad, then you probably should go. if going will be too sad, then perhaps not. Yeah, not much help I know. These things are complicated with so many emotions swirling round. Take care ~ Joanna x
Just today, it was prom day,,, and Miranda from across the street (Morgan babysat her) went,,,, ,they asked if I wanted to come over and see her and take pics.... I watched from my window with a tear,,,,such a simple task and I could not do it.... it is sooo hard sometimes.... you do what your heart tells you....
I also agree, follow your heart.
Wes will understand and still love you if you can\'t and will welcome you with joy if you can.
I gotta go with what everyone is saying...Follow your heart and do what feels right for you. If it hurts too much, don\'t go. When my son died, an old family friend named Camille said she did not think she could come to his services. She had lost 3 sisters that same year to breast cancer. Cammi and her husband did end up coming to Michael\'s memorial service and I have thanked her for that many times. However, I would have completely understood if she was just not up to doing that. Maybe you could make a showing at the BBQ and leave if you are not up to it. Just a thought. Love you.
My heart says go...there\'s a gift waiting for you....but that\'s ME....only YOU dear Rhonda can know what feels right for you.
I love you, and no matter what you decide is right for you, you have our support and understanding 100%; and I totally agree with Mary Lou....Wes will understand if you can\'t, and will welcome you with open arms if you can.
Yep follow your heart. Ask Josh, let him help guide your heart. Our neighbors son Tyler, Jeremy\'s adopted little brother graduates high school in a few weeks. Although we won\'t be invited to the ceremony, he\'s only allowed 4 tickets, we have been invited to the graduation party his grand parents will be having for him in July. As much as I love Tyler I\'m not sure if I could keep it together. I still have a hard time watching him get out if his car. He is so grown up. Hugs, angela
You will know dearest Rhonda, and my sense is that it will be a yes... Allow your heart lots of wiggle room and if you change your mind at the last minute that\'s okay. I have found that I do that often these days when I feel I want to do something and then cannot or don\'t think I want to and then it feels like a force is helping me to say, yes.
I\'m thinking of you and sending lots of love and most of all try to find the peace that you seek with whatever decision you make. Josh will help you with that as he is your peace loving son forever and always. :)
Love YOU!
XO Joanie
Go, I think you will feel glad you did go. If you\'re like me you would be home thinking about it. Ya, If your heart feels like going even a little bit, you should go...XO
i say go for it...u will make your SON smile....and then you will also feel the joy and happiness of going...you can do this :) love ya bunches