Circles

I feel like the theme for today should be circles.  After all, I not only feel as though I keep going in circles myself but also in circles with my relationship.  al-anon teaches "loving detachment".  How do I practice being loving when I keep getting slapped in the face with the same old crap?  and why do I keep putting up with it?  I was talking with another dailystrength friend who is pretty much in the same boat.  She was worried that maybe she had the grass is greener on the other side syndrom.  I feel that way also.  I worry about making the wrong decision so I don't make any.  Sometimes I get total deja vu thinking i am right back at the beginning.  oh well. I can't force a solution right?