deleted_user 01/11/2011
yah, this is common when childhood was hard.

it\'s a post trauma reaction. the brain reacts despite us not wanting it to.
like a tic or a twitch.

intrusive memories or thoughts.

the way to handle them is to focus on coping, not stopping.
and to not think of them as small or stupid. they are
your experience.

that is all. experience. not small or stupid.

alantm 01/12/2011
intrusive memories or thoughts
yes thats what it is ...
im sure people dont normaly get that
my reaction to them is quiet direct they dig at me as if they are
still happening some are 10 years ago
i removed the olser ones
..i will have to remove these but i dont want to hang around in the moment with them :(

deleted_user 01/13/2011
sometimes you can\'t control it.
Does that make sense?

as if they are still happening. EXACTLY!

sometimes you have no choice but to hang around with them.
if they intrude, it\'s not like you asked them in.

i\'m no expert. i know that i had them and practicing compassion
for MYSELF was the best thing for them. now they are not so
violent and full of FEAR.

i still get them. probably always will. but they are not so powerful.

i think people normally get them if they\'ve
suffered something or somethings that the
brain finds too difficult to grasp.

especially with children

then they get processed funny,
or not processed at all and go straight to
storage to be dealt with later on.

alantm 01/13/2011
not processed at all and go straight to
storage to be dealt with later on.


yes i think so its the things that you dont know how
to react too

deleted_user 01/14/2011
its\' a learning process.

that is the advantage of getting older.
it gets easier. you get to know yourself and
what triggers the past.