5 YEARS TODAY!
TODAY, March 12, 2012, marks 5 years from the day I walked into Divorce Court, said my peace and felt darned good about it. The now-X took the stand and tried to hide behind the 5th Amendment of the Constitution when directly questioned about his Adultery. So my attorney pulled the trump card and the OW was called as a witness. This was absolutely the piece de resistance -- we both KNEW that she would fold - and she did, but not before pissing the judge off big time. (Big satisfactory smile here). So even though a final decree had not been granted when we were excused (the judge asked for several days to render his official Opinion & Ruling) my attorney gave me a thumbs up and we knew it was a done deal at that point.
The financial stuff had been settled just days earlier (the 11th Hour Agreement) so there was no concern that anything would change in that regard) and she and I linked arms as we walked back up the street to her office and sang "We've Been to See the Wizard...the Wonderful Wizard of Oz!" If any of her colleagues would have seen us, they would have SWORN we had lost our minds, but it's a great inside joke that she and I share and we both still howl about it when we see each other.
So here I am -- 5 years later -- and feeling great! This morning, I finally unloaded those two big storage containers from under my bed that were chock full of all the papers, documents, discovery materials and hateful notes sent to me by the now-X during the 18 Months of Hell. Later this evening, I will ceremoneously toss them into the burn barrel and watch them all go up in smoke. There's probably 50 lb. of papers in that pile! And since I have decided NOT to write my book about that awful time in my life, I might sleep better without all that crap under my bed.
I have decided, instead, to write my book about my New Life -- this story is much more entertaining than that other one would have been, anyway. So I feel lighter and more positive in a lot of respects today!
Speaking of TODAY, it's almost 70 degrees and sunny here in Maryland. This has been an extremely rare and mild winter and, while I have been traveling some the last two months (and leave again this coming Sunday for a week in Sedona, AZ) I'll TAKE IT! Having some big old black walnut trees and scraggly cedar trees cut down and hauled away today; the fence man is coming in two weeks to drive 98 new fenceposts for us to erect new high-tensile fencing around the lower pasture and the electrican is coming sometime this week to replace the main power cable from the meter box to the panel box in my house.
Spoke with my realtor this morning about making some changes to the order of photos on the website listing. Have a list of other areas in this house that I need to attend to before the next Open House (mostly packing up chotckies and putting them away) and some notes on rearranging furniture to make the living room look larger. Always something to do around here, but hopefully I will get those things done BEFORE I have to start mowing the grass twice a week again. My cousin is going to come help me rake out the perennial beds and get a layer of new mulch down as soon as possible. I LOVE to mulch, but my back just won't allow me to do it all myself anymore, so I'm thankful for Cousin Gary! And in between all of these chores, I need to spend some quality time with the Lovely Miss Rio. She is shedding like crazy and I have been working her in the round pen every other day to get her muscled up for spring riding. Now all I have to do is line up some riding buddies and get back out on the trails again!
So that's just a quick update on what's going on here at Smallville. Stay tuned for details...and know that next week (March 18-23) you probably won't be hearing much from me. This trip to Arizona is a 5-day RETREAT with Vikki Stark (author of Runaway Husbands). I am sooo excited to finally meet her in person and the schedule for the week is a mix of sightseeing, meditation, group workshops and personal reflection. Wish you all could join me, but I promise to write and tell you all about it when I return.
Until next time...smiles to you all and carry on! Know that I will be holding all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
xoxox
Replies
Thanks, Kathi! Congrats to you!!!! You are still my inspiration! ((HUGS)) Cindy
so nice to see how Life goes on.... better than ever!! thanks for all your comments; coming from a 5-yr vet, i listen carefully!! have fun on your retreat:)
I just now saw this and you have been to and returned from Sedona. I never know when anyone posts a journal entry anymore. Congratulations on your 5th year anniversary. I love the idea of burning the papers.