You don\'t need him but instead of facing your real problems you are either with him (which gives you a new problem to focus on) or you are thinking of him (which takes the focus off you).
If you think you need him, do something for yourself and learn to love and respect yourself hon!
The needing is the addiction part..you just think you need him. We are alone and we learn to comfort ourselves..they do not comfort us. WE have to take care of ourselves they dont take care of us. Ultimately we are left alone to deal with everything. So really what need do they fill? In my case none. Its true focusing on him kept me off of looking at my life. I dont need that jerk...I never did. Once I stopped living in the illusion that he actually cared about me etc...it was easier to see that what I needed was to get my self together and not ever be in a situation like that again.
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You don\'t need him but instead of facing your real problems you are either with him (which gives you a new problem to focus on) or you are thinking of him (which takes the focus off you).
If you think you need him, do something for yourself and learn to love and respect yourself hon!
Big hugs
A xx
The needing is the addiction part..you just think you need him. We are alone and we learn to comfort ourselves..they do not comfort us. WE have to take care of ourselves they dont take care of us. Ultimately we are left alone to deal with everything. So really what need do they fill? In my case none. Its true focusing on him kept me off of looking at my life. I dont need that jerk...I never did. Once I stopped living in the illusion that he actually cared about me etc...it was easier to see that what I needed was to get my self together and not ever be in a situation like that again.