Oh People, Friends, I want to SCREAM. I chose RED because my blood is boilng and my Heart is Hurting. On top of court, grieving, and an iligitiment grandbaby, I found out today, that my daughter( that is so so smart and graduated with honors last year) has been seeing the DEADBEAT DAD...... She had a PanicAttack last Sunday Night and couldn't drive, I suspected something then, We had to go and get her from a parking lot about 6 miles away from our house, yeah the baby was with her. We got her home, And I be dadblasted if the very next day, she told me she was going to enroll in OTC (Tech school), Yeah stupid me kept the baby, but the rest of the afternoon she spent with HIM...... So today I decided to do a suprise stop at his house because his Dad was home, Me and his Dad talked for an hour and this has been going on for about 3 weeks. He has a warrant for child support, and they don't play, his Dad is adoment he is going to let him go to jail because he is sick and tired of paying his way. He is 22. He is also going to sell his older model, refurbished Tahoe, since he quit his job 7 months ago and is paying no insurance. And MY DAUGHTER wants to stand by him. She wants him to go to jail, get her money from left behind support and let him get counseling and then raise their Baby "Together"!! She is going to school, and will end up suporting his sorry ass if and when he gets out, I see through him.......All he wants to do is play video games and ride the roads, and do as least as possible........What a GREAT EXAMPLE HUH for baby HUH........I'll Accept any advice from anyone who will give it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Love You All, Prayers and BIG BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Also, do not overmedicate yourself. You will only hurt you. Rely on the Lord and do not let your daughter push your buttons. She has to face the consequences of her own actions...no one else\'s.
Hey, I know this situation is causing you so much pain. I understand how you feel and I don\'t blame you a bit. I know you can\'t see this man as anything but a deadbeat dad. I understand that. But we must also understand that people are much more then we tend to see them as. If I were still seen as the person I was at certain times in my life, you might think less of me or maybe even hate me. Like a picture is not us, any period in our life is not who we really are. we are what you mights say, are all God\'s children. He is also the father of your grandchild and he seems to be cared for by your daughter. He may not make any good choices at all but this may change. you are just the person to help and be an influence in this change. Love is the greatest power on earth. It is seen as God\'s gift to us. true love is the simple wish for other\'s happiness. Regardless of their actions. remember that Jesus said on the cross, \"forgive them, they know not what they do.\" This is what true love is all about. Forgiveness is the power to change anything. You must show this man that he can be all he should be for your grandchild. With love all things are possible. With hate the worst usually happens. So please choose the best for that wonderful little gift your daughter has brought you. I hope things turn around and know you can be there to make sure things get better, regardless of what others do. I am thinking about your family and hope for all your happiness. I love you and take care, John
im thinking they are right..i had to let my son go too and let him make hyis own mistakes.. hes called me everyday and like your daughter he cant see the trees thru the forest.. he has told me he wished hed stayed in tn and not there.. they fight allt he time now and his wife wont work again.. someday your girl will see hun someday.. all u can do is be there to pick her up when she falls and watch over that prescious baby...
hugs and prayers
YOU HAVE GOT ALL THE ANSWERS FROM SO MANY LOVING PEOPLE...I MYSELF HAVE THE SAME PROBLEMS AS YOU DO ONLY MINE ARE WITH MY SONS AND A LITTLE DIFFERENT AND ALL I COULD DO WAS LET GO OF THEM AND NOW I FEEL BETTER BOTH PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AND I ALSO HAD GRANDCHILDREN ENVOLVED WHICH MADE IT HARD BUT I HAD TO LET GO.I MISS MY GRANDCHILDREN BUT AS LONG AS I SEE THEY ARE WELL CARED FOR I WILL NOT GET ENVOLVED ANYMORE.
I HOPE EVERYTHING TURNS OUT FOR THE BEST.
TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS
i, too, feel the same way everyone else does...this situation is very very tought, but, with prayers and the loving family members you have both here and in your life, you will get more strength. I am so sorry to hear about everything. Keep praying daily and the answers and strength will come to you. HUGS, PRAYERS, SUPPORT AND FRIENDSHIP