JANUARY 1ST, YESTERDAY I WAS LOOKING FOWARD TO A DAY OF DOING ABSOLUTLY NOTHING; ONE DAY OUT OF THE YEAR. WELL SO MUCLH FOR DREAMS. AFTER BEING UP LATE HERE I WAS AWOKEN AT 11AM FINDING OUT MY SISTER IN LAWS MOTHER HAD DIED. SHE WAS LIVING WITH THEM AND WE LIVED WITH THEM AT THE SAME TIME FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF SO OUR SON HAD GROWN SOME ATTACHMENT TO HER. HE SAID HE WAS MAD AT GOD BECAUSE HE DIDN'T LET HER ENJOY THE CRYSTAL ANGEL HE GOT HER FOR CHRISTMAS.
I GOT UP AND WENT TO THE GROCERY STORE AND GOT A BUNCH OF SANDWICH SUPPLIES TO TAKE TO THEIR HOUSE FOR VISITING FRIENDS (SOMETHING MY MOM USED TO DO TO SHOW SUPPORT - PRACTICAL) SINCE NO FLORISTS ARE OPEN AND FLOWERS ARE SUCH AN EMPTY SHOW OF SUPPORT ANYWAY MY OLD LADY MADE UP A CHOCLATE BASKET FOR HER FILLED WITH TONS OF HERSHEY KISSES.
I WENT OVER ALONE SO REMMY WOULDN'T BE UNDER FOOT AND WE HUNG AROUND ALL AFTERNOON. WHILE WE WERE THERE WE GOT A PHONE CALL FROM MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY THAT OUR UNCLE DON FROM FLORIDA DIED LAST NIGHT. (MY BROTHER HAD A HEART ATTAACK 6 MONTHS AGO HE'S THE 3RD LOL).
THE ONLY THING THAT REALLY HAS BOTHERED ME ABOUT THIS IS MY SON IS BEING SHELTERED FROM THE WHOLE SITUATION OF DEATH. THE FUNERALS ARE OUT OF TOWN AND THERE ARE NO MEMORIALS FOR THEM NEARBY. SOMEDAY HOPEFULLY SOON HE IS GOING TO NEED TO LEARN THE GREIF PROCESS WHILE HE HAS PLENTY OF SUPPORT. I WOULD HATE FOR HIM TO GROW UP AND NOT BE READY WHEN SOMETHING HAPPENS TO SOMEONE HE IS REALLY CLOSE TO.
WHO AM I TO TALK MY DOG OF 12 YEARS DIED 6 WEEKS AGO AND MY DR AND I IMMEADIATLY CRANKED UP MY MEDS TO KEEP ME IN CONTROL BECAUSE OF THE DANGER OF GREIF AS IT PERTAINS TO MY BIPOLAR. AND I HAVE BEEN MAKING GREAT PROGRESS TOWARD SOME CONTROL OF MY DESIESE. THEN SHE DIED AND I AM NOT EVEN IN THE DENIAL PHASE YET. WE EVEN GOT ANOTHER DOG BUT I HAVENT BONDED WITH HER IN ANY WAY AND I REALLY DONT KNOW WHY.
SO WHAT A WAY TO START OFF A NEW YEAR. WAS IT BABY NEW YEAR OR THE GRIM REAPER THAT COMES ON THE FIRST OF THE YEAR.
I GOT UP AND WENT TO THE GROCERY STORE AND GOT A BUNCH OF SANDWICH SUPPLIES TO TAKE TO THEIR HOUSE FOR VISITING FRIENDS (SOMETHING MY MOM USED TO DO TO SHOW SUPPORT - PRACTICAL) SINCE NO FLORISTS ARE OPEN AND FLOWERS ARE SUCH AN EMPTY SHOW OF SUPPORT ANYWAY MY OLD LADY MADE UP A CHOCLATE BASKET FOR HER FILLED WITH TONS OF HERSHEY KISSES.
I WENT OVER ALONE SO REMMY WOULDN'T BE UNDER FOOT AND WE HUNG AROUND ALL AFTERNOON. WHILE WE WERE THERE WE GOT A PHONE CALL FROM MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY THAT OUR UNCLE DON FROM FLORIDA DIED LAST NIGHT. (MY BROTHER HAD A HEART ATTAACK 6 MONTHS AGO HE'S THE 3RD LOL).
THE ONLY THING THAT REALLY HAS BOTHERED ME ABOUT THIS IS MY SON IS BEING SHELTERED FROM THE WHOLE SITUATION OF DEATH. THE FUNERALS ARE OUT OF TOWN AND THERE ARE NO MEMORIALS FOR THEM NEARBY. SOMEDAY HOPEFULLY SOON HE IS GOING TO NEED TO LEARN THE GREIF PROCESS WHILE HE HAS PLENTY OF SUPPORT. I WOULD HATE FOR HIM TO GROW UP AND NOT BE READY WHEN SOMETHING HAPPENS TO SOMEONE HE IS REALLY CLOSE TO.
WHO AM I TO TALK MY DOG OF 12 YEARS DIED 6 WEEKS AGO AND MY DR AND I IMMEADIATLY CRANKED UP MY MEDS TO KEEP ME IN CONTROL BECAUSE OF THE DANGER OF GREIF AS IT PERTAINS TO MY BIPOLAR. AND I HAVE BEEN MAKING GREAT PROGRESS TOWARD SOME CONTROL OF MY DESIESE. THEN SHE DIED AND I AM NOT EVEN IN THE DENIAL PHASE YET. WE EVEN GOT ANOTHER DOG BUT I HAVENT BONDED WITH HER IN ANY WAY AND I REALLY DONT KNOW WHY.
SO WHAT A WAY TO START OFF A NEW YEAR. WAS IT BABY NEW YEAR OR THE GRIM REAPER THAT COMES ON THE FIRST OF THE YEAR.
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Sorry to hear all that bad news. What a horrible day you seemed to of had. The good news is that you made it through.
Me on the other hand, I had to put up a big fight to save my own life. BI POLAR SHIT SUCKS SO BAD> I cut myself quite bad, and on my neck too. What a dummy, I can\'t even see it, I just feel it and wonder if I have to wear turtle necks for a few weeks to cover the marks.
My shrink is working on my case for Bi Polar in reguards to an increase of my v.a. pesion.
Let\'s talk sometime.
pat
my email is: patuncfan@yahoo.com
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NB, It does sound like a lot to have happened all at once. I\'m sorry.
You are a very wise parent to want to have your son know how to deal with death. My mother thought she was \'helping\' when she tried to \'protect\' me when I was young. Wrong! It effects ones whole life if it\'s hidden. IMO. Of course now days the attitude is different, I guess. You don\'t have to dump it on a kid but there are ways to ease into the subject.
As for your dog. So very sorry to hear of the passing of your other one. That is something I can really relate to. Try to give a little more time for the new one to be part of your family, there are a lot of emotions going on now. She doesn\'t know what\'s happening, please be kind to her until she and you can understand each other.
You\'ll get through all of this. You will. Things will get better. They will.
I\'m sorry to hear all the pain you\'re going through. My dog passed away last year and I\'m still feeling it, but I love my new puppies regardless. I can\'t help it I\'m a sucker for any animal. Yet I know it can be tough accepting another pet in your life because you don\'t want to feel the same pain again. Anyways my sympathy for so much loss in your life, but I hope things will get better for you.