Today so far I have sent inquiry emails to 28 different apartment complexes to get more information on their MPDU (moderately priced dwelling unit) programs. Most have long waiting lists which suck. Going through those programs is the only way we will be able to afford to live. It's so frustrating.
I have applied to 4 jobs, sent inquiries to 4 other places to see if they may be hiring and have 5 more places to apply. There aren't many job opportunities right now. Fuck.
My mother sent me an email saying that from Dec 14 on she is no longer paying for any part of my dietitian bills. Because I bumped below the weight range (regardless that I am almost back up in my weight range). Even if I get back into my weight range she is not going to help pay. Per her words, "you know what you have to do so I really don't know why you in Gods name you have to go there, shit I too can weigh you on the scale no big deal."
For some reason I thought she was paying on a month to month basis as to how I was doing...but I guess I was wrong. My mom just forwarded me the message she sent me back in October..."one fuck up and the $$$ is no more, no second chances no nothing."
Then looked back at the first email she sent to Jill in December. "For much of the time that Steffanie has been seeing you she has been paying the cost herself. This is because we told her if there are no results and if she is not doing what you have told her to do her father and I feel that it is money that we could utilize better elsewhere. We agreed to pay the difference from insurance after coming out of Reflections, so long she follows precisely what she is told. Until now it appeared that Steff has made progress since leaving Reflections. She seemed to have been doing well until earlier this week while at our home I asked her how things were progressing and she indicated that there was some set back over Thanksgiving and she isn't where she should be. Based on this info alone, we would not subsidize her payments for November. Her father and I feel that we now need objective proof on her progress before continuing with payments. Consequently, we are hoping that you can provide us with monthly progress reports simply indicating whether she is in the weight zone or whether she has fallen below or managed to get above the zone."
Guess no more monthly progress reports are needed.
I have applied to 4 jobs, sent inquiries to 4 other places to see if they may be hiring and have 5 more places to apply. There aren't many job opportunities right now. Fuck.
My mother sent me an email saying that from Dec 14 on she is no longer paying for any part of my dietitian bills. Because I bumped below the weight range (regardless that I am almost back up in my weight range). Even if I get back into my weight range she is not going to help pay. Per her words, "you know what you have to do so I really don't know why you in Gods name you have to go there, shit I too can weigh you on the scale no big deal."
For some reason I thought she was paying on a month to month basis as to how I was doing...but I guess I was wrong. My mom just forwarded me the message she sent me back in October..."one fuck up and the $$$ is no more, no second chances no nothing."
Then looked back at the first email she sent to Jill in December. "For much of the time that Steffanie has been seeing you she has been paying the cost herself. This is because we told her if there are no results and if she is not doing what you have told her to do her father and I feel that it is money that we could utilize better elsewhere. We agreed to pay the difference from insurance after coming out of Reflections, so long she follows precisely what she is told. Until now it appeared that Steff has made progress since leaving Reflections. She seemed to have been doing well until earlier this week while at our home I asked her how things were progressing and she indicated that there was some set back over Thanksgiving and she isn't where she should be. Based on this info alone, we would not subsidize her payments for November. Her father and I feel that we now need objective proof on her progress before continuing with payments. Consequently, we are hoping that you can provide us with monthly progress reports simply indicating whether she is in the weight zone or whether she has fallen below or managed to get above the zone."
Guess no more monthly progress reports are needed.
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Your mother needs some serious bedside manner, but for once I agree with her decision or at least can see her point. You want to lose weight or it makes you happy at least and you have no intentions to gain so your mom is just wasting money.
Good luck on the job search, I know it is long and frustrating.
not the best way to have handled it, but i understand why your mom said this. steph, you are losing and dont want to gain, so what really is the point in going, if your not going to do as they say?i realize it is very hard, and i am struggling with this too, but i have no one to account for. your mother must be very frustrated and maybe the tough love approach she is doing with the money will work, i dont know. i just want you to get healthy. hugsss
i think what she said is right too- just rather harsh. but she doesn\'t even know how i feel and that i like losing weight. she doesn\'t know anything that is going on- she doesn\'t want to know. and i know this is not the case, but if i were to of dropped out of range even with do everything jill said she would of stopped paying also.
if i didn\'t keep going then everyone would thinking im not trying. it did take me up until today to schedule my appt with jill for this week.