Women who Love too Much Community Group

WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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unstuck

Missmom75
Missmom75
When i was with M, I remember hearing about or seeing happy couples..friends of mine posting sweet sappy stuff on facebook about their ever so happy lives with their husbands. oh brother, i thought, but just beneath the surface I was jealous as hell and so damn depressed. I felt stuck, I would never get that massage from my man, I would never get proposed to so romantically, I would never watch him build sand castles in the sand with my son...or sit on the stands with me during one of his soccer games.I was stuck and left to settle for the little he did for me. AND I MEAN LITTLE TO NOTHING.
Tonight a friend posted something really sweet that her bf did for her and for the first time in almost a year, I smiled and felt happy for her and happy for me because now there's hope. I'm unstuck. :)
swelsha
swelsha
yay for unstuck!! I think i'm still trying to get there.
Missmom75
Missmom75
Oh well so am I. Not there yet by any means. But I'm on my way!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think there is hope for all of us from the moment we decide to take on the long road of healing. Happy couples also used to make me jealous and depressed. I was thinking: "I will never have that," "This will never happen to me."

We're on our way of making this possible for us. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm laughing because I used to love Facebook and now it's too painful to read everyone's happy lives. I am still saying I will "never" have that again. I know intellectually that I will one day meet someone and I will one day smile again. Right now it seems far away. But I am committed to healing first and not go to my old way of jumping into any relationship so I don't feel the loss, grieve and deal with what I need to heal me. I'm on my way :) almost four weeks now no contact. I'm reading every day, journaling, therapy and spending time with girl friends instead of men.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It seems far away for me as well. But I want to believe that there is happiness somewhere there for me. It's a big, long road but I'm willing to walk towards the light.
Missmom75
Missmom75
:) love you ladies.
deleted_user
deleted_user
And we love you Missmom xx :)
swelsha
swelsha
it does seem like a long road. but i think it does usually take about a year for our feelings over someone to cease. then, probably another year of just getting/keeping my life in order. i've been nc almost 6 months. wish i were further along. i hate that i still think about him and have some feelings for him. but i know in time that wll change. right now i'm just trying to do the things i know i need to get done in my life and those are the things i'm really feeling stuck on. quitting smoking and getting my home nice and orderly seem like impossible goals. i've been working on these things as a distraction, so to speak, from the break up and to keep from falling into a total depression. i'm starting to change that perspective to seeing these as things that i just want to do for myself as a part of my life instead of some path that i make myself walk because i must do them instead of contacting him. better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have not even gone fully nc yet, I guess. I'm getting to it. Baby steps.

Quitting smoking is a very hard task, but I'm sure you'll make it. I quit a year and a half ago :) It's great that you're setting substantial goals for yourself, it will help you stop thinking about him. This way, you concentrate on something else.