Women who Love too Much Community Group

WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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rosey24_
rosey24_

Hi... I'm very new to these types of meetings and im hoping i can benefit from the feedback i receive. For the past year ive been in a wrestling match with myself and my current relationship i struggle with all types of mental problems some to include PTSD, deppression, and anxiety. Also im in the marine corps which is stressful in its self. My relationship with my boyfriend has definitely been an abusive and unhealthy one . i find myself searching and hoping things will get better but things just have been a continous down spiral. i want to leave but i genuinely dont know how. ive tried unsuccessfully before and i just need some advice on how to leave. Any ideas?

rukia
rukia
May I ask how you tried to leave before and why it was unsuccessful?
rosey24_
rosey24_
I would tell him I need a break and stop talking to him but soon thoughts of him leaving completely or finding someone else came up so I would stay and give in
artgrrl
artgrrl
It's really hard to leave someone you've been intimately involved with. You bond and then you think "what if I regret this and then feel a tremendous sense of loss?"

So it comes down to needing to come to that conclusion of whether it's worth it to stay. Only you can make that decision. If there's physical abuse going on your life can depend on leaving, though.
April13
April13
I've been doing the same with drug addict partner since 2012, 4 attempts at leaving, but like you I ' d have thought of him leaving permanantly & of being with another & ask him back. I have before very unwell as a result, physically & mentally because of the stress. I hope that one day I can leave & go sowhere where he cannot find me & I cannot contact him, complete dissapearace. I' ve even considered changing my identity so I can feel like a different person, like a RE - birth, to put the last 12 years with him being me, they have been so traumatic and mess, so much loss. Although I think that's probably what he will do, selfish, cheat & manipulative liar! The running away thing 'cos he' s wanted by the police. I wish I could Change.
April13
April13
I've been doing the same with drug addict partner since 2012, 4 attempts at leaving, but like you I ' d have thought of him leaving permanantly & of being with another & ask him back. I have become very unwell as a result, physically & mentally because of the stress. I hope that one day I can leave & go somewhere he cannot find me & I cannot contact him, complete dissapearace. I' ve even considered changing my identity so I can feel like a different person, like a RE - birth, to put the last 12 years with him behind me, they have been so traumatic and messy, so much loss. Although I think that's probably what he will do, selfish, cheat & manipulative liar! The running away thing 'cos he' s wanted by the police. I wish I could Change.
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