yeah that happened to me on a dating site... line after line... at my age all the good men are taken... so i am going to focus on getting good grades at school and being happy with my life just the way it is.. if God has someone planned for me i will meet him and things will work out... otherwise i am tired and want to to more with my life than wait around for mr right. sorry for your disappointment ...

It's funny what you say Chutz because I also sometimes have these thoughts, that at my age all good men are taken.
Missmom the message about waiting for you to realize he's the only man for you is like a total red flag for me. I don't know why but it sounds wrong.

Heads up ladies xxx

I think so too Notyet.
However, my best friend swears by the fact that he's a really good and decent guy and would not take me for a ride. Especially since we have mutual friends and have known each other for as long as we have.
I don't know...but what I do know is that I'm not wasting another second of my life secondguessing anything or anyone. You like me? Make it clear that you like me. And by that, I mean, ask me out, ask me for my number, CALL me, send me roses. It's not freaken rocket science.
Sheesh!

Soon you'll know what he's all about :)

I think we over-think. You are not involved yet and keep it that way until you have a clearer sense of the man for yourself. NO ONE should tell you without knowing you for some time that they are the man for you. It's ridiculous period. In terms of his not responding, it could be busyness but it could also be manipulative. We need to trust the world but you do not know this man (you know of him and you feel chemistry). Take your time.

call him out on it... next time you think he is giving a line say something like nice line" if he runs away with his tail between his legs you will know it was just a line. if it isn't he will stick around.... my n always ran away with his tbhl..... i called him on shit at least 6 times and each time he sulked and quit contact until i apologized and said i was wrong, then i would always take him back... i told him last weekend to use his own phone and wouldnt print him a bunch of coupons (he used my phone all the time cause i pay monthly and he pays by minute) so now he is not contacting me... this time i am not going to beg forgiveness ,,, he is cheap and i am not going to be used any longer... you will know soon what he is all about like notyet said...

the manipulators know from the get go if they can get there way so my new rule for myself is to be blunt right from the get go, their true colors come out that way and then i will know from the beginning and never go through this crap again....

Yeah, maybe I overthink. But look, I just saw that he was online a few hours ago and he has STILL not responded to my msg. If I was interested in someone, I would at the very least respond to a question he asks.
Do I think he's playing games? NO. He's just not the type and I know the type,, unfortunately.
I think he's just not interested. oh well
It really sucks cuz I SO thought he was.

Well then he is a game player. What kind of line is "I'm the guy for you." followed by nothing?? It's bullshit--pay attention, do not just think you have him figured out and he's 'not like that' because others see good in him. Pay attention. How is this brand new person making you feel? What kind of energy is he bringing to you? How is it affecting you?

To play devil's advocate, nothing's going on. We've literally only had one physical encounter about a month ag, and chatted a few times online. I've gotten way ahead of myself because I welcome the distraction, this 'new' thing has helped me not obsess over M. Our short interraction consisted of him letting me know that he's interested, and my dodging his subtle advances in attempt to protect myself. He said I'm very defensive and can tell that I've been hurt but that he's not 'that guy'
Still, he cut off the communication rather suddenly, or am I reading into it too much?

Who knows.
We'll see what happens on Friday if I see him.

don't assume anything either way... just see what happens... in the mean time try to not obsess over either one

Maybe he is stressing because he said a dumb ass line. You are the prize here, not him.

Maybe. My response to his comment was 'Really? were you trying to convince me?'
That's what he hasn't responded to.

Still no word. He's been online, removed his photo and hasn't said a peep to me.
Oh well

I think you may have met your ex again. I mean he is making you have the same feelings.. wondering is he interested or not.. why is he not answering.. RUN MISSMOM, RUUUUUUNNNNNN!

I think we are so desperate for a guy to appreciate us, like us, that we give off some kind of vibe.. That in turn causes the guy to act all aloof etc.. Its always like that.

I hate men!

yeah, and i used be elusive on purpose... it was a game, though. then i thought we'd seen enough, shown deep love for each other, and that it was time to stop playing... right.

that was after i'd hurt him AFTER he'd hurt me with his drunkenness and abuse. so i wanted to make it up to him and show him i was serious about him, and would stick by his side through the change and growth that needed to take place, mutha effa! wat a damn waste. . . all except for the painful lesson and deep wounds i am still healing.

Yeah bubbles. Another A-hole?
WTF

sigh....Happy Monday guys :(