Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
Definitely enjoy a reminder once in a while. My exN just called my work line yesterday. I had changed both of my mobile numbers over a month ago so he could no longer call me and disturb my life. The last time I heard from him he told me that he wouldn't care if I committed suicide (not that I EVER threatened it or talked about it), I was the worlds worst person, I was ugly, fat, smelled, stupid, alcoholic, you name it. The following day I decided that I was never going to go through that "exercise" again and I cut him off and out of my life! I can't change my land line at work though and just bounced him into voicemail. The nutjob had the audacity to leave a message saying he wanted to talk to me. How psycho do you have to be to actually contact a person whom you declared to hate so much that you didn't care what happened to her. NEVER AGAIN! NEVER. AGAIN! Im embarassed for him!
Yes, I have been in healthy relationships and not all men are like this. In fact only about 15% of the population are disordered which means that 85% of the men are not.
I am so grateful to the healthy relationships that I was in prior to the Narc attack because it was one of the reasons that I knew something was so wrong during the Narc attack. I kept thinking: love does not feel like this. This is not what love feels like.
I remember pulling out a box of love letters from a previous relationship to remind me what it feels like to be with a man that that loved and appreciated me and treated me like a princess. And not someone who was indifferent, belittling and took me completely for granted.
If you continue to find yourself in bad relationships then it is really important to get to root of the issue, whatever that may be for you. I have found great insight in books like WWL2M, Escape from Intimacy, Facing Love Addiction and Women Who Love Psycopaths but it was in therapy (based around the book: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson - I use a therapist that I found on her website) that I was able to really dig deep into my long term abandonment issues.
I hope that every single woman who loves too much can face their deepest fears in the mirror so that we stop acting out our family of origin issues in our adult relationships.