you're right about everything but one, he will not be happy, he will NEVER be happy. these men are not strong enough to fix their issues and get happiness. they will constantly try to fill the void within them w/ one woman after another, thinking that since they're not happy, she must not be the right one. then dispose of her and find the next victim immediately. they dont feel remorse for what they've done because they simply cant FEEL. i've seen it over and over and over. these men are miserable, and will die miserable.

Anger is an important stage...
But anger does cover up the pain, so you will need to feel the feelings to really heal them...
I think we need to move through whatever comes up, feel it fully, and move on.

One thing to remember about what happens to him -- Karma.
He'll need to deal with his stuff at some point, and it won't be pretty.
I truly believe that you can't go around hurting people without having to pay, at some point.

Amen sister, I feel you totally. Girl, I have been there and back. I usually listen to Keyshia Cole's first cd when I am feeling angry. It just helps me fully get it out. I really feel like you are speaking for me here. One day....one day it won't matter whether he is hurting or not. Because we will be whole and have a fulfilling life. But I validate your anger, girl. I am wit you.

I can relate completely!! I feel as though I am in floating between anger, sadness and acceptance almost everyday. I do feel all the anger you wrote about and then some. Just knowing I am not alone is a big consolation to me as this has been the hardest thing I have had to do. As I said in my initial post, the break up was not expected at all and I feel like I was blind sided. Thanks for your post, it's good to hear that other people are feeling the way you are and you are not crazy for that!!

I think how you are feeling is so healthy. I do not think I have been angry yet. I wish it would could out. I would love to beat a pillow with a baseball bat and think of him, but I have stayed immersed in sadness. My pain makes me so, so sad and not angry. But I think anger is really good, healthy and important.

I think when you pick up the Narc Lovers book it will explain so much. They simply do not have the ability to bond with another human being and therefore they can just simply walk away. They give the example in the book how when your cell phone starts to act up that you get a new one and you don't pine away for the old one, you just toss it because it is no longer useful for you. Well that is what you are to them, an object, a source of supply. When you try to become a 'person' instead of catering to their every whim, that is an assault to their false self and they toss you aside. I guess once you understand what you are dealing with it is not so hard to take things personally.

They can not feel any emotions like we do. Only anger, and rage. The look around see how people are acting and pretend to secure their supply. But once it is time for another supply off they go and we are left CRUSHED in their wake.

I read so much so that I can watch for signs and know better next time, but all the reading in the world is not going to replace getting that place inside of me healed where these situation no longer land on my radar because I am not attracting them.

Anger is good and don't feel guilty for feeling it embrace it and tunnel it into
getting on with your life without the him in it TAKE THE ENERGY and keep learning about yourself and growing this helped me move on and heal in a way that I gained from it not him too much energy on the dicks.

Peace and love.

Thank you everyone!!! Your support means so much to me. I realized angry is good because today I looked back on my whole relationship and suddenly it was CRYSTAL clear. I can't believe I let myself be treated that way and I saw this man (who I thought was the best thing that ever happened to me) for what he truly was and it became just that much easier to let go. It wasn't so much that I was holding on to him but holding onto the dream of who I thought we could be.

I can really relate to this: It wasn't so much that I was holding on to him but holding onto the dream of who I thought we could be.

I t hink it is one of the charactertics of WWL2M. So often the fantasy in our head has ZERO to do with reality. SCARY.

I know mine came in such an attractive package (how he looked, his body, how he carried himself, his profession all these things were extremely sexy to me) meanwhile his insides were as dark and rotten as a spoiled tomato. And he treated me with a great deal of disrepect. What fairytale is that fantasy from? The Dark Knight????