Good list........ wanting to spend every waking moment with you, loner, OCD about cleanliness, workaholic, can't get over exes.......

Great signs so far ladies!

To add to that:

-gets sexual very quickly
-wants to move in with you the day after you meet
-pressures you for sex/phone sex
-hates humanity
-thinks life is unfair
-blames all his problems on others
-cruel to his mother
-difficulty holding on to a job
-never there for you when you have a problem
-never asks you about your life
-frequently suicidal
-history of being in gangs
-watches pornography
-got in many fights in highschool
-had an abusive father who left the family
-doesn't seem to be really listening to you
-frequently disappears for a week at a time then calls you like nothing happened
-will not remove profile from dating website, though he insists you are exclusively dating
-if you feel bad, he doesn't care or tries to make you feel even worse

And many more!!

Oh and of course:

Blames HIS bad behavior on YOU (everything he does is your fault!!! You made him do it!!!)

Goingup. you just described my ex. especially..... " will not remove profile from dating website, though he insists you are exclusively dating" and "Blames HIS bad behavior on YOU (everything he does is your fault!!! You made him do it!!!)

I know he's doing the same to the new women as well because I've checked online and he still has his profile up and been on since he's moved in with her....
They never change or should I say the only thing that they change is there women. Ha

Angeldove...thanks for sharing that story about your ex. It's the same with mine. As far as i know he has a new girl, and at the same time, STILL had a profile on a dating site. It had no picture, but he had logged on in the last few days. And I discovered elsewhere he was fired from his job. That was the last time I checked anyway, months ago. At this point I don't ever want to know anything about what he does, ever again. I hope he ends up in jail one day.

So, you are so right. They don't change. In a way it gives satisfaction, I know his behavior was never my problem. They are solely responsible for the way that they are, and they stay that way because they in some way find it justified.

I would add:

- has scars of cuting himself with a razor
- drinks too much
- pushes for sex
- is lazy and lacks ambition
- ignores you
- does not appreciate you
- sleeps around
- uses women for sex and then discards them
- cannot hold on to one woman (a cheater)
- speaks of love at first sight
- addicted to tattoos

Did we all meet and date the same man? I am always amazed at the similarities. Blaming his bad behavior on you is a big one. They love to project their crap onto others. If they did not do so then they would have to admit they have serious faults. We all know this is not going to happen. These similar red flags prove we are not alone in this recovery!

This made me grin actually! I'll do my own pick and mix:
-drinks too much
-reckless driver
-was into loads of fights
-loves women as sexual objects, especially young/teenage...
-never asks about you
-obsessed with sex
-pressures you into sex/phone sex
-addicted to tatoos
-addicted to his looks
-addicted to the sun
-loves to be the centre of attention
-liar liar liar (have I said liar yet?)
-serial love rat
-totally irresponsible
-master of deceit
-manipulative
-cannot survive without his male mates and needs to be adored by everyone
-will ignore the law to suit his own needs
-fell out with his dad
-stubborn

It makes me feel good to write this list... how strange...

another big red flag:

- you feel sorry for him and he elicits strong feelings of pity by playing the sympathy or victim card.

More red flags:

- constantly talking about how much time he spends in the gym and how fit he is
- hints at drinking binges
- professes love and strong feelings early on
- runs hot and cold emotionally
- disappears for days at a time only to reappear like nothing happened

The list can go on and on...