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My bf has completely flown off the deep end, to the point of snapping at me and yelling at me. I really thought i had a good one till now.....
he was in my face the other day, screaming, took the pillow i had propped behind my back and threw it at me. He leaves the house, slamming doors everytime there is a problem, then come back like everything is ok, with a totally different perspective on what happened. forgets things i say, re words things he said to the point that the origional issue isnt even addressed.
we just got done fighting now, he wouldnt stop. he calls me crazy, of course im emotional, im fucking pregnat! he was making fun of me, lying to me, saying that when he left, slammed the door on me, and spun his tires out it was because he had to go to work, and this was right after him saying he wanted to take a nap, he was mad cause i had to stretch out on the bed to get comfortable and wasnt scooting over fast enough. i didnt want to move fast cause i was nauteous. so after him hounding me i just got up and went to the living room, have the damn bed if you are going to get angry over that. so he ran out and left. then he calls, and obviously i am upset, i mean, he just left me like that. saying that he has to work to pay the bills, and that he cant just stay home with me, what the hell does that have to do with what happened?
he turns it around, making it sound like im crazy cause i dont want him to work? not even the issue. the issue is the way he talks to me. and now im on a countdown. how long do i put up with this? how much allowances should i make? i go back over the past few weeks and look at facts, im sure i could have reacted differently a few times, but enough is enough.
He has raised his hand at me, hasnt hit me, but the threat was there, im pregnat, i dont care how mad you are,
you want to raise your hand to a pregnat lady?
My friend wants me to come stay with her, says i can stay there till the baby is born, just help out what i can.
i dont know. i dont want to be a single mom.
the BF says he cant afford me right now, i told him i thought he wanted the baby, he said he did, but that was when he had 3000 in the bank account. what does that have to do with it????
he cant just put me on pause. he cant just say go away for a while and come back when i feel i can afford it.
its not like we are broke, sure, things are tight, but bills are paid, we have food, we do not struggle for rent.
He didnt want me to work in casinos, he said he would pick up slack while i am looking for other jobs.
i help where i can. I dont know what to do. im pressed to make a decision.
do i take my experiences from the past and run as fast as i can away?
or do i stick it out a little longer??? should i sacrifice all the work i have done to try to be healthy, and stay out of bad situations? or should i stay a little while? just a little to see if things get better? but then it will always be in the back of my mind what i could have to deal with?
i dont believe he is trying to be abusive honestly, i believe he is immature and young, and not the smartest peanut in the shell. i have made allowances for him, because he pursued me, was nice to me, and stuck by me through my bad times. but now what? im pregnat....... i wanted a baby after i lost my first, he was such a different person then. now??? i dont know.
he was in my face the other day, screaming, took the pillow i had propped behind my back and threw it at me. He leaves the house, slamming doors everytime there is a problem, then come back like everything is ok, with a totally different perspective on what happened. forgets things i say, re words things he said to the point that the origional issue isnt even addressed.
we just got done fighting now, he wouldnt stop. he calls me crazy, of course im emotional, im fucking pregnat! he was making fun of me, lying to me, saying that when he left, slammed the door on me, and spun his tires out it was because he had to go to work, and this was right after him saying he wanted to take a nap, he was mad cause i had to stretch out on the bed to get comfortable and wasnt scooting over fast enough. i didnt want to move fast cause i was nauteous. so after him hounding me i just got up and went to the living room, have the damn bed if you are going to get angry over that. so he ran out and left. then he calls, and obviously i am upset, i mean, he just left me like that. saying that he has to work to pay the bills, and that he cant just stay home with me, what the hell does that have to do with what happened?
he turns it around, making it sound like im crazy cause i dont want him to work? not even the issue. the issue is the way he talks to me. and now im on a countdown. how long do i put up with this? how much allowances should i make? i go back over the past few weeks and look at facts, im sure i could have reacted differently a few times, but enough is enough.
He has raised his hand at me, hasnt hit me, but the threat was there, im pregnat, i dont care how mad you are,
you want to raise your hand to a pregnat lady?
My friend wants me to come stay with her, says i can stay there till the baby is born, just help out what i can.
i dont know. i dont want to be a single mom.
the BF says he cant afford me right now, i told him i thought he wanted the baby, he said he did, but that was when he had 3000 in the bank account. what does that have to do with it????
he cant just put me on pause. he cant just say go away for a while and come back when i feel i can afford it.
its not like we are broke, sure, things are tight, but bills are paid, we have food, we do not struggle for rent.
He didnt want me to work in casinos, he said he would pick up slack while i am looking for other jobs.
i help where i can. I dont know what to do. im pressed to make a decision.
do i take my experiences from the past and run as fast as i can away?
or do i stick it out a little longer??? should i sacrifice all the work i have done to try to be healthy, and stay out of bad situations? or should i stay a little while? just a little to see if things get better? but then it will always be in the back of my mind what i could have to deal with?
i dont believe he is trying to be abusive honestly, i believe he is immature and young, and not the smartest peanut in the shell. i have made allowances for him, because he pursued me, was nice to me, and stuck by me through my bad times. but now what? im pregnat....... i wanted a baby after i lost my first, he was such a different person then. now??? i dont know.
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i think after reading your post the way i would see it as i have two children of my own is, is he going to be emotionally unavailable with the child too, does this emotional and possibly physical abuse continue because it rarely ever goes away, he is obviously the person with the issues, so tell him you need to be on your own, i know it is scary but i feel you are doing the best for you and your child, and you won't be alone, your friend will be there in what capacity it is hard for me to say but she obviously cares a lot. And when you feel that baby kick and you are providing a safe place for her to be born into you will be strong and you will be proud that you can do this by yourself. HUGS xxxxx
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