Women who Love too Much Community Group

WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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Babyk94
Babyk94
Hi everyone my name is Kayla and I actually just joined today. I just recently got out of a 2 1/2 year toxic relationship starting from when I was 15 . I am 17 now and will be turning 18 in December. Long story short I was with a guy who had a very abusive, ignorant, and dysfunctional family. He was into drugs, alcohol, and all types of dangerous street activities. I was always trying to get him to change and all of my time was spent on him. I stopped hanging out with friends and did everything with him. More info about my story is in my journal. But, I was wondering if anyone had any advice for someone starting out on their journey of recovery. I have not spoken to him since Thursday and I have a no contact rule put in place. So if anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello Babyk and welcome to the forum :)
I don't have any great piece of advice as I'm struggling to help myself. But I would recommend reading the book "Women who Love too Much," it explains why we act like this and offers 10 steps to recovery.
Lots of love.
Babyk94
Babyk94
Thank you so much :) I am ordering that book today
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes you will find the Book extremely helpful. You are so Strong to have discovered this at such a young age...get a handle on it now so you will not setttle for these types of dysfunctional Men again! Congratulations to you for being so aware and for having the courage and taking the steps to change.

Hugs and Blessings
Babyk94
Babyk94
Thank you so much, I am definitely 100% devoted and determined to turn my life around. The support I am recieving from is just amazing.
swelsha
swelsha
Good for babyk. Just remember that it gets though staying no contact, post on this forum instead of contacting him. welcome
deleted_user
deleted_user
So proud of you for figuring out at a young age that you deserve more and for taking the steps to heal and overcome. You are awesome!
Babyk94
Babyk94
Omg thank you so much all of this support is truly amazing I can't even put it into words. I am taking control of my life it's really scary but, I know it will be worth it. I'm learning to love myself day by day.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Welcome BabyK! Like the other fabulous ladies on here, I also applaud you for recognizing this at your age. Im 33 and it has taken me this long to finally realize that I am attracted to unavailable men. Yes read the book that was reccommended and I would say start a journal of how you are feeling. I am at a week of No contact today (as far as phone calls and 5 days NC on texting) It gets better each day...cant say I dont have sad moments but I have to realize my worth should be determined by ME and not any MAN.

Like Swelsha said...post here instead of contacting him...he doesnt deserve your attention my dear.

Hugs,
Sarah
deleted_user
deleted_user
BabyK,
I am new to this forum as well. Unfortunately, I am not so new to toxic relationships. At 38, I just read the book these wonderful women have recomended, and I am seeing the light. Good for you for learning and growing at such a young age! I think it will be a challenge, but becoming aware of the unhealthy drives within us regarding relationship choices is the first step to recovery, and at your age I think you can avoid the common pitfalls and patterns that I and many of my peers are just now fully realizing.
Good luck, keep working hard, and stay strong.