Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
Not just men, but in everyday life.
I try to be true to myself, what is left of myself. i make an attempt to be happy. i make an attempt to be true.
I cant stand it, when people lie to me, about things that dont even mean anything, about things that its obvious they are lying about. i watched my roomate "pretend" to do the dishes. said she did all the dishes from a get together we had and only stopped and left the half a sink because she pruned up. however, there was still sinkfuls of dishes. i have also seen her bring her dishes out and not wash them... but she says she does it everytime, and when someone is looking she will do a bowl or two to make it look like she is doing it. she puts a lot of effort to support her lies. why not just put that much effort into actually doing it? just an example. people put more work into their lies than they do with their reality. it makes me look at myself and wonder what i put my energy into.
I try to be true to myself, what is left of myself. i make an attempt to be happy. i make an attempt to be true.
I cant stand it, when people lie to me, about things that dont even mean anything, about things that its obvious they are lying about. i watched my roomate "pretend" to do the dishes. said she did all the dishes from a get together we had and only stopped and left the half a sink because she pruned up. however, there was still sinkfuls of dishes. i have also seen her bring her dishes out and not wash them... but she says she does it everytime, and when someone is looking she will do a bowl or two to make it look like she is doing it. she puts a lot of effort to support her lies. why not just put that much effort into actually doing it? just an example. people put more work into their lies than they do with their reality. it makes me look at myself and wonder what i put my energy into.
and these men make it like that for a while for us... and when the honeymoon ends, we are left wondering where our perfect world went, and we feel awful because why dont we deserve this? and unfortunately, i think, that once we have been with a N... it destroys this for us, because now, anytime someone even starts to act caring or give us our love story, we question why, we no longer have the ability to just let go. and we cant after what we have been through. what you dont know cant hurt you? oh so wrong that is. and it hurts even worse after you know it. and lets face it, we are wired a little different.
and more and more people are becoming like us in todays society. most of us have been abused, abandoned, raped, manipulated or hurt by people in our lives at a young age that were suposed to be role models or our parents themselves. our intermal red flag list is broken. our insticts are shot.
the reason why true love stories exist for others, is because their emotional system is intact. they can weed out the bad ones... and they dont rush in! it seems to be everyone's general story, that the N exposes himself for who he is around 6 months to a year. we are in such a hurry most the time to be with them, to fall in love, to be that love story... that we dont get to see who they really are until it is too late.
where others let love come to them in time... and are not in a hurry. they enjoy the moment, but if at any moment their partner threatens them, they can leave and protect themselves.
we sit back and go, oh, his last girlfriend hurt him... oh he was so abused... we justify their actions instead of running.
Does anyone have any friends or family members who are in healthy relationships??
I dont want to give up on the hope that NORMAL exists....and that it doesnt necessarily have to be boring.
It is helping me deal in the aftermath with the sheer humiliation of being connected to this FREAK, this EVIL.
http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/wwlp2-e-book (this link ends in" book'')
If you haven't got the book, I highly recommend it. Consider it a Christmas gift to YOURSELF.
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It is helping me deal in the aftermath with the sheer humiliation of being connected to this FREAK, this EVIL.
http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/wwlp2-e-book (this link ends in" book'')
If you haven't got the book, I highly recommend it. Consider it a Christmas gift to YOURSELF.
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