Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I know i haven't been around in a while, and i know i have not been the best group leader as of late, but please, help me in this. I need this story to spread as far as it can go. I need it to viral. find me on facebook, or message me for contact info if you wish to speak with me. I'm writing this from the hospital...
My real name is Teshia A. Kluski. Last year my Boyfriend Rick M. Rey was assaulted by my ex Glenroy J. Sandy. Glenroy had been physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to me in the past. I left him July of 2013. We remained in contact as I still believed a friendship may have been salvageable. Even though he had hit me, Even though I had been through abusive relationships in the past, I stupidly thought he really didn't mean to hurt me, and blamed it on my PTSD being difficult for him to handle. He started playing the games again, started to get into my head again, and i told him i no longer wanted anything to do with him, that i did not trust him, never would and it was too late to salvage anything and it was best to sever contact completely. in December I began dating Rick. He began to call, and call, hundreds of times. and non stop texting. then death threats to himself or others. He told me how much he loved me, needed me, couldnt live without me, that he was losing everything and dying. I told him to call a counselor and get help. he threatened to go to my family's house. He threatened my friends. He left notes in my car, was told by property managers to never return. When i told him i would get a restraining order, he decided to come for me... his texts no longer made logical sense. Rick was visiting me, making christmas ornaments with the kids... My ex was sitting at the end of the drive way, then pulling out, driving back and forth, and sitting again while texting me. He said he was coming in, so Rick went outside to tell him to leave, and he ran Rick over with his truck at about 30+ mph. we have a long driveway. it popped Rick on the hood, where Glen brake checked him off and ran over him again. There was internal swelling but no bleeding at the time and a couple cracked ribs. Rick kept complaining of chest pains, went in the er, where they checked his vitals, took an xray and released him. He is a disabled Vet, he went into the vet hospital, where they said they didnt feel the need to check him out. and NOW, an entire year later, we are in the hospital. His spleen had been bleeding for a year... and entire year, and finally ruptured. he had to be given 6 units of blood... the human body only holds about ten... He is ok for now, he also has some damage to his liver and pancreas, that also show as injuries from being ran over last year.
Here is why i need your help... Glenroy Sandy, was set free. he ran from the police for 24 hours, then when he was caught only served 5 days jail time and was released to complete his enrollment in ROTC, to be an Army Officer. I was not told when he was arrested or when he was released as promised for my own safety. I had to look it up online... because the sherriffs office didnt call me back.
We were promised justice. the Prosecutor, Richard Pryor i believe, or something similar, ill get back to you on a solid name, of Mason county, Shelton, WA said no way would this guy get away with it, that Glen would pay for his crimes. I asked him to include me in the no contact order. I gave all the evidence, of the crazy text messages and witness accounts.
I never received paperwork. I assumed everything was ok and we were awaiting trial, til one day i found out through the grapevine that a court date had already happened, and another one the very next day. we NEVER received any paperwork as we were promised, nor updates. Time goes on, the trial date keeps getting pushed back, and we were never called back on time, or responded to. we asked if we needed a lawyer, we were told we didnt.
Suddenly, a sentancing date is set, I called the Prosecutor to ask what the hell was going on? he said that he was entering a guilty plea... at first sounded good, until he told me the charge. nope, not assault, nope, not attempted murder with a deadly weapon. but NEGLIGENT DRIVING. when i told him this was not right, that he had to fix it, that it was bullshit.... he said he didn't like my attitude. i practically begged him, to please help... that this guy was dangerous... that he couldn't just walk away with less than a DUI. then the Prosecutor told me I needed to respect Glenroy, who is now an army officer. The fuckers let him free on bail, to finish school, to become an officer, and then get to WALK because he is an officer and they dont want to hurt his career. and the Army paid for his degree to be an officer. They never put me in for a no contact order, i was told i was not a victim. Think all of that is fucked up? here's the kicker... THIS IS NOT GLENROY'S FIRST OFFENSE. and the prosecutor REFUSED, or was unable to by law, or whatever the excuse, use Glens past record. He has done this before. He is a time bomb. the military always hides it. and he is charismatic, charming, does the whole church thing... you ladies know how it is.
But this CANT be how this ends... I WILL NOT accept it. I need to go viral. i need supporters. These laws need to change. if he has a past domestic record, that shit should stack up. just like they stack up DUI's. I want to change the law, and i want military people to be held accountable, ESPECIALLY officers.
Is GLENROY the type of person you want as a leader in the military? please ladies. help me i have contacted the news, am working on government officials... THIS SHIT CANNOT HAPPEN TO US ANYMORE.
My real name is Teshia A. Kluski. Last year my Boyfriend Rick M. Rey was assaulted by my ex Glenroy J. Sandy. Glenroy had been physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to me in the past. I left him July of 2013. We remained in contact as I still believed a friendship may have been salvageable. Even though he had hit me, Even though I had been through abusive relationships in the past, I stupidly thought he really didn't mean to hurt me, and blamed it on my PTSD being difficult for him to handle. He started playing the games again, started to get into my head again, and i told him i no longer wanted anything to do with him, that i did not trust him, never would and it was too late to salvage anything and it was best to sever contact completely. in December I began dating Rick. He began to call, and call, hundreds of times. and non stop texting. then death threats to himself or others. He told me how much he loved me, needed me, couldnt live without me, that he was losing everything and dying. I told him to call a counselor and get help. he threatened to go to my family's house. He threatened my friends. He left notes in my car, was told by property managers to never return. When i told him i would get a restraining order, he decided to come for me... his texts no longer made logical sense. Rick was visiting me, making christmas ornaments with the kids... My ex was sitting at the end of the drive way, then pulling out, driving back and forth, and sitting again while texting me. He said he was coming in, so Rick went outside to tell him to leave, and he ran Rick over with his truck at about 30+ mph. we have a long driveway. it popped Rick on the hood, where Glen brake checked him off and ran over him again. There was internal swelling but no bleeding at the time and a couple cracked ribs. Rick kept complaining of chest pains, went in the er, where they checked his vitals, took an xray and released him. He is a disabled Vet, he went into the vet hospital, where they said they didnt feel the need to check him out. and NOW, an entire year later, we are in the hospital. His spleen had been bleeding for a year... and entire year, and finally ruptured. he had to be given 6 units of blood... the human body only holds about ten... He is ok for now, he also has some damage to his liver and pancreas, that also show as injuries from being ran over last year.
Here is why i need your help... Glenroy Sandy, was set free. he ran from the police for 24 hours, then when he was caught only served 5 days jail time and was released to complete his enrollment in ROTC, to be an Army Officer. I was not told when he was arrested or when he was released as promised for my own safety. I had to look it up online... because the sherriffs office didnt call me back.
We were promised justice. the Prosecutor, Richard Pryor i believe, or something similar, ill get back to you on a solid name, of Mason county, Shelton, WA said no way would this guy get away with it, that Glen would pay for his crimes. I asked him to include me in the no contact order. I gave all the evidence, of the crazy text messages and witness accounts.
I never received paperwork. I assumed everything was ok and we were awaiting trial, til one day i found out through the grapevine that a court date had already happened, and another one the very next day. we NEVER received any paperwork as we were promised, nor updates. Time goes on, the trial date keeps getting pushed back, and we were never called back on time, or responded to. we asked if we needed a lawyer, we were told we didnt.
Suddenly, a sentancing date is set, I called the Prosecutor to ask what the hell was going on? he said that he was entering a guilty plea... at first sounded good, until he told me the charge. nope, not assault, nope, not attempted murder with a deadly weapon. but NEGLIGENT DRIVING. when i told him this was not right, that he had to fix it, that it was bullshit.... he said he didn't like my attitude. i practically begged him, to please help... that this guy was dangerous... that he couldn't just walk away with less than a DUI. then the Prosecutor told me I needed to respect Glenroy, who is now an army officer. The fuckers let him free on bail, to finish school, to become an officer, and then get to WALK because he is an officer and they dont want to hurt his career. and the Army paid for his degree to be an officer. They never put me in for a no contact order, i was told i was not a victim. Think all of that is fucked up? here's the kicker... THIS IS NOT GLENROY'S FIRST OFFENSE. and the prosecutor REFUSED, or was unable to by law, or whatever the excuse, use Glens past record. He has done this before. He is a time bomb. the military always hides it. and he is charismatic, charming, does the whole church thing... you ladies know how it is.
But this CANT be how this ends... I WILL NOT accept it. I need to go viral. i need supporters. These laws need to change. if he has a past domestic record, that shit should stack up. just like they stack up DUI's. I want to change the law, and i want military people to be held accountable, ESPECIALLY officers.
Is GLENROY the type of person you want as a leader in the military? please ladies. help me i have contacted the news, am working on government officials... THIS SHIT CANNOT HAPPEN TO US ANYMORE.
1. Born to a VERY Abusive mother, mother gets married to abusive step father
2. Grandmother dies/commits suicide
3. first time homeless at 10 y/o (mom kicked out)
4. 16 y/o. boyfriend tries to kill me. driving 80+ down the wrong side of the freeway, holds knife to my throat, forces me... step dad would do nothing.
5. Left school, moved to tacoma, worked, found new boyfriend,
6. new boyfriend tries to kill me after snorting coke. (i have never done drugs). pins me to wall, rips clothes off, unplugged phones, stole car keys, etc. I managed to overpower him.
7. Join Army, meet new boyfriend... also tries to kill me. chokes me til the lights went out, then the next day i dropped an enormous blood clot. (i had thought i was pregnant).
8. became pregnant for second time (lost first), very sick, hypermesis, throwing up blood, had to get iv's. and guess what? you got it! the father backs into me with a car on purpose. and it was thrown out in court because of his navy career. I was homeless during my pregnancy, surfing couch to couch, room to room.
8. 6 year old Jenise Wright was murdered in my neighborhood. google the name, you will see my house.
9. The 4chan strangler, David Kalac, was a friend of mine. feel free to look that up too.
9. Single working mom whoo hoo for me, started college. Oops, met another psychopath, after hitting me in front of my daughter... he runs over my current boyfriend who nearly died Friday, and also gets to walk free.
just the basic major points, alot more details of course. but i cant believe all this has happened to me for no reason. People keep mentioning Rosa Parks. I'm not like her, but more people should be. i'm asking people to not let me stand alone, but i am not afraid to. ive been alone my entire life. ive been ridiculed and put down and told i cant do this, or shouldnt do that, or should do this. I've never been good enough for anyone, and i dont have to be. and, something i asked myself long ago...
am I happy? if answer is no----> is there anything i can possibly do about it? if the answer is yes then i must try to do it. I cannot teach my daughter to be happy, individual, extrinsic, whole, and trusting in her own decisions, if i cant apply those rules to myself. I don't fit in mainstream society, and it is mainstream society that made me this way by overlooking me. i'm finally learning to be myself, and what that means.
http://thelifecoachschool.com/category/podcast/
how to change your past...by brooke castillo
our pasts no longer exist except in our minds. going over the past again and again doesn't serve us in my opinion. the only way our past exists is in my thoughts about my past NOW!
so what my past is now is my story about my past. does the distinction make sense??
when i ask you about your past you will tell me your memorized story.. whereas if i asked your mom about your childhood she would have a different story.
our stories are what we made it mean...our past is over. the only thing we have is our current thoughts about our past.
regarding old pain.... we have a feeling we experience in this moment. we cannot feel a feeling we felt at age 3. we are not experiencing pain from our past. we are experiencing a thought. it is new pain that we are feeling with our current thinking. what happened in our past is over. the only pain from the past is the pain we are experiencing now is what we are creating with our thoughts nOW!!..
if we feel shame now it's not about the past. it's about what i'm thinking about my past now... we continue to abuse ourselves long after the past is over. we perpetuate the abuse. our minds torture us. this is not blaming the victim. this is great news bc we can change how we think about our past and how we feel about it then.
the only way it defines us now is in the way we choose to think about it.
if i ask you to make a case for you having a wonderful life you can. if i asked you to tell me about your horrible life you can make that case too. the story we tell about our pasts will depend on the story we focus on.
we create the life we believe we've had. what we focus on. being a victim perpetuates into adulthood not because they have been victimized but b/c that's the story they are focusing on.
everything is relative. everything is meant to happen exactly as it's supposed to have in order to live a most important life there is freedom. we chose our parents. the perfect set up to challenge me so i could survive. i couldn't have picked better parents to have taught me what i needed to know to be the person i am today.
everyone is doing the best they can. if i had a perfect life maybe i wouldn't have turned out the way i am today.
you get to take from your past what you want and you get to leave the rest... daniel sullivan. we have 100% control over this... we get to decide what we make it mean. we get to decide if if was part of our destiny or if something went terribly wrong. the only pain we feel right now is pain we create in our minds right now.
it sets us free. we could regret and beat myself for. it was alwasys going to happen that way. it was always part of the plan. i think of my past in terms of destiny but i don't think of my future in destiny terms.
when we argue with our past we lose but only 100% of the time. byron katie.
make peace with what has happened immediately after. don't argue with it.or you will lose 100% of the time. how do you want to feel about you past? how do you want to use your past to make you feel stronger and better today?? USE it. my past is mine in my mind. i get to decide what i make my past mean in my life. we get to decide if we're going to be a hero or a victim.
most people chained to a painful past are taking the option. they are choosing the story.
write a story that has made me strong and capable what has made me worthy?? then retell the story of my past that serves me better. and leave the rest of it behind. my future is my property. the past is OVER it has NO POWER over me. if i'm suffering over anything in my past it's because of the story i am telling myself. change the story.
When I was in the Army, I had an infection in my jawbone from a wisdom tooth extraction gone bad. not dry socket. full infection. there was a drill sergeant that would pick on alot of us, and while she was screaming at me to get down and do push ups not letting me give her my dr's note, even as my face was swollen. (push ups could have killed me), a major came out and stopped her, made HER drop, and told me if she gave me any more shit to come see the major and she would put it straight. Granted the Major had way more power than a drill sergeant, but she used that power to help me. and i'll always remember it.
I'm done trying to fix men. im perfectly fine alone. I dont have any patience for bullshit, and im always free to leave. i dont need anyone. so if im not treated right, i could really care less how they feel now. I have boundaries. and if this relationship doesnt work after all weve been through, sure, ill be upset, but i know i'll get through it, just like so many times before. What i am afraid of, is him dying. He is still in so much pain.
but basically, i want to make a difference for the women that suffered at the hands of psychopaths, and for the women who want out but have no way because they ahve become so isolated, and no one cares anymore.