Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
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Dracona
I know i haven't been around in a while, and i know i have not been the best group leader as of late, but please, help me in this. I need this story to spread as far as it can go. I need it to viral. find me on facebook, or message me for contact info if you wish to speak with me. I'm writing this from the hospital...
My real name is Teshia A. Kluski. Last year my Boyfriend Rick M. Rey was assaulted by my ex Glenroy J. Sandy. Glenroy had been physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to me in the past. I left him July of 2013. We remained in contact as I still believed a friendship may have been salvageable. Even though he had hit me, Even though I had been through abusive relationships in the past, I stupidly thought he really didn't mean to hurt me, and blamed it on my PTSD being difficult for him to handle. He started playing the games again, started to get into my head again, and i told him i no longer wanted anything to do with him, that i did not trust him, never would and it was too late to salvage anything and it was best to sever contact completely. in December I began dating Rick. He began to call, and call, hundreds of times. and non stop texting. then death threats to himself or others. He told me how much he loved me, needed me, couldnt live without me, that he was losing everything and dying. I told him to call a counselor and get help. he threatened to go to my family's house. He threatened my friends. He left notes in my car, was told by property managers to never return. When i told him i would get a restraining order, he decided to come for me... his texts no longer made logical sense. Rick was visiting me, making christmas ornaments with the kids... My ex was sitting at the end of the drive way, then pulling out, driving back and forth, and sitting again while texting me. He said he was coming in, so Rick went outside to tell him to leave, and he ran Rick over with his truck at about 30+ mph. we have a long driveway. it popped Rick on the hood, where Glen brake checked him off and ran over him again. There was internal swelling but no bleeding at the time and a couple cracked ribs. Rick kept complaining of chest pains, went in the er, where they checked his vitals, took an xray and released him. He is a disabled Vet, he went into the vet hospital, where they said they didnt feel the need to check him out. and NOW, an entire year later, we are in the hospital. His spleen had been bleeding for a year... and entire year, and finally ruptured. he had to be given 6 units of blood... the human body only holds about ten... He is ok for now, he also has some damage to his liver and pancreas, that also show as injuries from being ran over last year.
Here is why i need your help... Glenroy Sandy, was set free. he ran from the police for 24 hours, then when he was caught only served 5 days jail time and was released to complete his enrollment in ROTC, to be an Army Officer. I was not told when he was arrested or when he was released as promised for my own safety. I had to look it up online... because the sherriffs office didnt call me back.
We were promised justice. the Prosecutor, Richard Pryor i believe, or something similar, ill get back to you on a solid name, of Mason county, Shelton, WA said no way would this guy get away with it, that Glen would pay for his crimes. I asked him to include me in the no contact order. I gave all the evidence, of the crazy text messages and witness accounts.
I never received paperwork. I assumed everything was ok and we were awaiting trial, til one day i found out through the grapevine that a court date had already happened, and another one the very next day. we NEVER received any paperwork as we were promised, nor updates. Time goes on, the trial date keeps getting pushed back, and we were never called back on time, or responded to. we asked if we needed a lawyer, we were told we didnt.
Suddenly, a sentancing date is set, I called the Prosecutor to ask what the hell was going on? he said that he was entering a guilty plea... at first sounded good, until he told me the charge. nope, not assault, nope, not attempted murder with a deadly weapon. but NEGLIGENT DRIVING. when i told him this was not right, that he had to fix it, that it was bullshit.... he said he didn't like my attitude. i practically begged him, to please help... that this guy was dangerous... that he couldn't just walk away with less than a DUI. then the Prosecutor told me I needed to respect Glenroy, who is now an army officer. The fuckers let him free on bail, to finish school, to become an officer, and then get to WALK because he is an officer and they dont want to hurt his career. and the Army paid for his degree to be an officer. They never put me in for a no contact order, i was told i was not a victim. Think all of that is fucked up? here's the kicker... THIS IS NOT GLENROY'S FIRST OFFENSE. and the prosecutor REFUSED, or was unable to by law, or whatever the excuse, use Glens past record. He has done this before. He is a time bomb. the military always hides it. and he is charismatic, charming, does the whole church thing... you ladies know how it is.
But this CANT be how this ends... I WILL NOT accept it. I need to go viral. i need supporters. These laws need to change. if he has a past domestic record, that shit should stack up. just like they stack up DUI's. I want to change the law, and i want military people to be held accountable, ESPECIALLY officers.
Is GLENROY the type of person you want as a leader in the military? please ladies. help me i have contacted the news, am working on government officials... THIS SHIT CANNOT HAPPEN TO US ANYMORE.
My real name is Teshia A. Kluski. Last year my Boyfriend Rick M. Rey was assaulted by my ex Glenroy J. Sandy. Glenroy had been physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to me in the past. I left him July of 2013. We remained in contact as I still believed a friendship may have been salvageable. Even though he had hit me, Even though I had been through abusive relationships in the past, I stupidly thought he really didn't mean to hurt me, and blamed it on my PTSD being difficult for him to handle. He started playing the games again, started to get into my head again, and i told him i no longer wanted anything to do with him, that i did not trust him, never would and it was too late to salvage anything and it was best to sever contact completely. in December I began dating Rick. He began to call, and call, hundreds of times. and non stop texting. then death threats to himself or others. He told me how much he loved me, needed me, couldnt live without me, that he was losing everything and dying. I told him to call a counselor and get help. he threatened to go to my family's house. He threatened my friends. He left notes in my car, was told by property managers to never return. When i told him i would get a restraining order, he decided to come for me... his texts no longer made logical sense. Rick was visiting me, making christmas ornaments with the kids... My ex was sitting at the end of the drive way, then pulling out, driving back and forth, and sitting again while texting me. He said he was coming in, so Rick went outside to tell him to leave, and he ran Rick over with his truck at about 30+ mph. we have a long driveway. it popped Rick on the hood, where Glen brake checked him off and ran over him again. There was internal swelling but no bleeding at the time and a couple cracked ribs. Rick kept complaining of chest pains, went in the er, where they checked his vitals, took an xray and released him. He is a disabled Vet, he went into the vet hospital, where they said they didnt feel the need to check him out. and NOW, an entire year later, we are in the hospital. His spleen had been bleeding for a year... and entire year, and finally ruptured. he had to be given 6 units of blood... the human body only holds about ten... He is ok for now, he also has some damage to his liver and pancreas, that also show as injuries from being ran over last year.
Here is why i need your help... Glenroy Sandy, was set free. he ran from the police for 24 hours, then when he was caught only served 5 days jail time and was released to complete his enrollment in ROTC, to be an Army Officer. I was not told when he was arrested or when he was released as promised for my own safety. I had to look it up online... because the sherriffs office didnt call me back.
We were promised justice. the Prosecutor, Richard Pryor i believe, or something similar, ill get back to you on a solid name, of Mason county, Shelton, WA said no way would this guy get away with it, that Glen would pay for his crimes. I asked him to include me in the no contact order. I gave all the evidence, of the crazy text messages and witness accounts.
I never received paperwork. I assumed everything was ok and we were awaiting trial, til one day i found out through the grapevine that a court date had already happened, and another one the very next day. we NEVER received any paperwork as we were promised, nor updates. Time goes on, the trial date keeps getting pushed back, and we were never called back on time, or responded to. we asked if we needed a lawyer, we were told we didnt.
Suddenly, a sentancing date is set, I called the Prosecutor to ask what the hell was going on? he said that he was entering a guilty plea... at first sounded good, until he told me the charge. nope, not assault, nope, not attempted murder with a deadly weapon. but NEGLIGENT DRIVING. when i told him this was not right, that he had to fix it, that it was bullshit.... he said he didn't like my attitude. i practically begged him, to please help... that this guy was dangerous... that he couldn't just walk away with less than a DUI. then the Prosecutor told me I needed to respect Glenroy, who is now an army officer. The fuckers let him free on bail, to finish school, to become an officer, and then get to WALK because he is an officer and they dont want to hurt his career. and the Army paid for his degree to be an officer. They never put me in for a no contact order, i was told i was not a victim. Think all of that is fucked up? here's the kicker... THIS IS NOT GLENROY'S FIRST OFFENSE. and the prosecutor REFUSED, or was unable to by law, or whatever the excuse, use Glens past record. He has done this before. He is a time bomb. the military always hides it. and he is charismatic, charming, does the whole church thing... you ladies know how it is.
But this CANT be how this ends... I WILL NOT accept it. I need to go viral. i need supporters. These laws need to change. if he has a past domestic record, that shit should stack up. just like they stack up DUI's. I want to change the law, and i want military people to be held accountable, ESPECIALLY officers.
Is GLENROY the type of person you want as a leader in the military? please ladies. help me i have contacted the news, am working on government officials... THIS SHIT CANNOT HAPPEN TO US ANYMORE.
I don't have a facebook ...but what I can do is share your story on another DS group I'm a part of (Victory over Victim). I hope more and more people will read your story and you will get justice. Don't give up! Big hugs and stay strong XX
I hope you are in a place of safety or at least have told everyone about this and where this guy can be found should something happen to you. Can you go to a domestic violence group or shelter?
I can share this on other forums if that helps.
Go to the newspapers they love this stuff. Papers over here will campaign on behalf of victims, you must have some over there to help you.
yes the laws do need to change and SOON.
i'm so sorry. i've been there from the start of all of this, not knowing the details, i knew it was serious and that's why you've been gone from here..
i understand the oppression you feel that is so enraging!!!
we're totally here for you!! please come here bf you do anything that will send you to jail. the bottom line is your daughter needs you dracona. you cannot go to jail.....you must not do that. THAT would be the kicker.
focus on rick right now. get him well. that's the most important next step.....if you do have a petition started i would gladly sign it!!! i have worked with many women in the service with PTSD whose incidents were swept under the rug!!!! it's terrible!!!
How can we create change if everyone is afraid? you cant. you have to jump in that fear and see what is on the other side, or you can run from it your entire lives hiding in what society has constructed for you.
i kind of feel like you need to find an advocate. this ex is not responsible for ALL you have gone through in your entire life so why waste your entire life on a battle you can't win with rash decisions or violence or taking the law into your own hands or starting riots or any other illegal thing?? he wins no??
become an advocate. contact victim witness and ask for help......use the money you get from them to start a website and movement on line.... but please stay out of harms way for your own sake and for your daughters. to continue to cycle of abuse and violence in your life is not going to get you a win in the end and it will only cause more harm to more people. you don't want your daughter's legacy to be one of fighting against the machine do you??? show her how to take care of yourself and do what you can realistically do as an advocate for yourself. .
dracona, you have been so wronged it's unblelievable. it makes me angry to hear....... find a way to be a thriver in your life instead of continuing the victim cycle. heal and move on..... you deserve peace...
I am sorry to hear your story. It is really frightening to even hear of an abuse of this order and degree.
I understand that you are hurt and pained by this outrageous, but try to focus on yourself. You have a boyfriend, a daughter....I suggest you take some time to calm down and then take any action. Even after 7 days if these thoughts seem unchanged, you can take a decision.What to do? How to do? How to ensure your safety and your daughter and bf's safety ? Everything can be decided later.Just take care
For now take care of Rick, your daughter and yourself.
You deserve the best and it will come your way...just a matter of time. Life is precious. Just hang on and be peaceful:)) You have gone through a lot...the worst is over...trust me.
Much Love:))
My heart goes out to you. I agree with Finn and Kuhu..bad energy cannot be overcome with more bad energy. Focus all of your efforts on being safe and keeping your daughter and Rick safe. Much love
I'm not doing this because I'm angry. i'm doing it because no one else can, or will. and if i want a good team of lawyers i need to have a following, so i need to go public. my ex already threatened to sue me for harrassment/slander to his military career if i pursued getting a no contact order cause it could hurt his clearance. This is why I have a chance of going to jail.
I cant wait until rick is out of the hospital and it all dies down... time to do it is now, while he is still recovering. We have had a civil case going for months, and no one gives a damn to call us back and even let us know of any progress. this has to be done a different way. and im stubborn. i will sit on their doorstep until im paid attention to. I'm not letting this go until its fixed. I've been screwed by the system my entire life.
1. they gave me back to my abusive mom even when i said i didnt want to go, and they had evidence it was unsafe
2. My Daughter's biological father ran me over with a car when i was 4 months pregnant, and got away with it, the police report completely thrown out because he was in the navy. they wouldnt even make him go through anger management or domestic violence classes, because it would hurt his clearance.
3. This recent event.
im not just gonna sit here while it happens again.
The reason nobody does is because of the fact that: it is hard. Know that this will be very hard on you and plan some kind of self-care or support system. Expect nobody to believe you. Expect nobody to care. Do this for you, this is about taking a stand and speaking up no matter what reaction you get. I admire it and I wish you the best of luck.
Ultimately your best revenge is your own success. Speak up, AND make a plan to carve out the very best for yourself that life has to offer. Keep doing what you need to do to care for your life and daughter.
You go girl!
Sorry I'm kind of contradicting myself. But there is a real need to be afraid here.
i hope you go through protocols available to you, and stay out of harms way. no one that i know of besides the president has been able to overturn the don't ask don't tell rule of the military. it is a tightly oiled machine.
my guess is the media is the best way to expose the truth. if there was a way to get an expose that would be good.
again it's not about being silent. it's not about tolerating abuse. it's about doing what's best for you daughter. if you aren't around that's not fair for her. that means putting your righteousness and sense of justice above her needs to me. because you've been through so much in your life and have such severe ptsd symptoms you've talked about before, you both have enough to deal with. maybe she will be the one to grow into a a strong fearless rosa parks advocate for women like you who have been wronged by the military.
my thought originally was would it be better to spend the energy on healing your life, your own ptsd, your family, finish your degree so you can help and serve so many other women who are also being wronged or would it be better to fight a fight you probably cannot win bc it does not ever end. you against the government or you against the military. or you against the county. VERY VERY powerful systems. how could you reach and serve more people?? just food for thought... that's all.
it's merely a choice you are making. nothing is wrong with going for it. unless you get hurt or thrown in jail. thats all about ego...
my very best, please be careful and keep us posted..if you have something to sign i'd be happy to support you. or if you get on the news let us know. i couldn't find your Facebook page...