Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
Sorry ive been gone.. been busy between school and work, havent got much in edgewise, but im doin alright.
i just wanted to check up on things, and post about something that has been on my mind lately.
ive been people watching lately. there is a guy at my work, who is totally infatuated with this girl. she comes in, and well, she is annoying, and not that fun to look at either, i then see another guy walk in, and another, and watch these three men dote over her following her around. Now, this guy at work, complains about how he loves her, and how these other men are around, how they dont do anything for her, and he comes over to do the dishes all the time to clean up after them, but he isnt giving up because he promised her he would always be there when she needed him. when you think of this girl, think buck teeth, toothpick skinny, huge nose and hunchback who is very opinionated and wont let anyone get a word in edgewise. but he swears he will be with her, because he had a dream. so, i met a guy who loves too much?
I met another guy at school, who apparently has had this other girl living with him, whom he is not together with. she doesnt work, she doesnt cook clean or do ANYTHING, include having sex with him in a long time. but he takes care of her, because at one time he had bought her a "promise" ring for over 4g's that he would not abandon her, he has reverse abandonment issues he cant leave, and she wont leave. he couldnt print out his paper, because the expensive 3 g computer he bought her, was for her. he said he tried to get away from her before, and found out she had no where to go and felt guilty. like he came out to meet us at the bar, brought her, she decided she wanted to go across town, he drove her there, then came all the way back. gives her money, he claims her as a dependant and gives her the extra tax money. and he doesnt want to "fix" her, he just wants to make sure she is ok. but she is a royal bitch. like he is black, and she will call him the N word. im just like wow. thats pretty insane. he is amazed that i text austin and tell him that i stopped for coffee with him, or was helping him with a paper and that im honest.
so in a short time i have met two men who love too much? i hadnt met them before, or am i just noticing signs about people i didn't before.
i just wanted to check up on things, and post about something that has been on my mind lately.
ive been people watching lately. there is a guy at my work, who is totally infatuated with this girl. she comes in, and well, she is annoying, and not that fun to look at either, i then see another guy walk in, and another, and watch these three men dote over her following her around. Now, this guy at work, complains about how he loves her, and how these other men are around, how they dont do anything for her, and he comes over to do the dishes all the time to clean up after them, but he isnt giving up because he promised her he would always be there when she needed him. when you think of this girl, think buck teeth, toothpick skinny, huge nose and hunchback who is very opinionated and wont let anyone get a word in edgewise. but he swears he will be with her, because he had a dream. so, i met a guy who loves too much?
I met another guy at school, who apparently has had this other girl living with him, whom he is not together with. she doesnt work, she doesnt cook clean or do ANYTHING, include having sex with him in a long time. but he takes care of her, because at one time he had bought her a "promise" ring for over 4g's that he would not abandon her, he has reverse abandonment issues he cant leave, and she wont leave. he couldnt print out his paper, because the expensive 3 g computer he bought her, was for her. he said he tried to get away from her before, and found out she had no where to go and felt guilty. like he came out to meet us at the bar, brought her, she decided she wanted to go across town, he drove her there, then came all the way back. gives her money, he claims her as a dependant and gives her the extra tax money. and he doesnt want to "fix" her, he just wants to make sure she is ok. but she is a royal bitch. like he is black, and she will call him the N word. im just like wow. thats pretty insane. he is amazed that i text austin and tell him that i stopped for coffee with him, or was helping him with a paper and that im honest.
so in a short time i have met two men who love too much? i hadnt met them before, or am i just noticing signs about people i didn't before.
For example, he met a girl who told him she had been sexually abused and to prove to he loved her, he would not have sex with her before marriage. He agreed, determined to show her that he was different and that she could trust him. They were engaged and he was madly in love with her.
After 14 months, they were 2 months away from getting married and she starts showing a pregnancy. He breaks up with her and 4 months later she delivers a child. Like a true person in an exploitative relationship, he brought her flowers, a teddy bear, and a savings bond to the hospital even after all the trauma and duplicity, so that she would know he was still a 'good guy' no matter how she treated him.
This same guy, who was one of the smartest men and most well educated men I have ever met (he had a Phd in history as well as a JD) married a high school drop out, who had spent time in prison and was a former stripper. They once went to a fancy hotel for drinks and the manager asked her to leave because they thought she was a hooker.
Apparently it was really important for him to save someone.
Apparently he never got the memo: if you want to save someone, join the Coast Guard because it is the only way it pays.
I don't think they would be attracted to each other. The male versions do not seek nice emotionally available women the same as we are bored by nice, kind and emotionally available men.
but what if one day we are. they would never abandon us, because they have abandoment issues lol, and visa versa, and both would strive to make the other happy before themselves, which could balance out maybe, its just a really interesting idea of mine right now.