Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I need to know if this is something others here have experienced. Is it something all guys do? A couple of times a year my xn would meet up with a buddy...his one and only friend...they would each travel 900 miles, meet up, stay in a hotel/motel, share the same room, the same bed and spend the weekend "just talking". Does that seem wierd to anybody besides me? That was an 1800 round trip, just to talk? Do all guys do that? I brushed it off a couple of times but I had this nagging gut suspicion that they probably were intimate with each other. Call me what you like...the thought of the man I was being intimate with making it with another man made me nautious. He always acted a little different when he came back from these trips. It bordered on guilty acting...ashamed. Or maybe I just imagined it. The other guy was married but not happily. I think they both felt "safe" with each other. Maybe it was the only time they could both be who they really are...I don't know. I just wondered if anybody else has seen this with their N.
When I lived in California a 'straight' guy at our office went to see Brokeback Mountain 3 times. I am totally NOT homophobic at all but 3 times. I said to him: Isn't that a little excessive? And he said: Are you questioning my hetrosexuality? And I replied (joking) Yes, and you should also.
One night a group from work (including an openly gay guy) went out for drinks. Mr. Straight Brokeback Mountain and our gay coworker got too drunk to drive so I drove them both back to the gay guys apartment. The gay guy put him on the couch (he only had a 1 bedroom) and went to bed. In the morning he woke up and the 'straight' guy was in his bed. Said he did not remember how he got there. OK. Right.
Same with his story. If it smells fishy it is normally because something is off.