He is a control freak. He tries to make it feel like its your fault and you're not good enough. He's the one with the problem. The only problem u have is him. Let go girl. Just let go.

We all have freedom of speech and opinion. If he tries to manipulate you into thinking you don't dare to be yourself, or to persuade you that you don't have basic rights, don't walk away from him--RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!

I have heard those same words. Don't do that, or it will be over between us. Let him GO... I'm with the rest of the girls. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE... been there, done that, learn from your mistakes. Speak what's on your mind!!!! Never allow anyone to dictate what you can and cannot say.

I'm scared to say anything at all so he may leave me for good. I texted him today and he didn't respond. I'm about to do NC, for as long as i can.

Hugs sweet girl. Do you really want to hold back on what you need to say? Maybe, he just can't face the truth. We had gotten away from our key phrase "Starve the Vampire", but I think it's time we got it back. STARVE THE VAMPIRE!!!! Remember NC is for us...

no more ego stroking!!

I am sorry to hear of your pain. I can understand fully what you are going through. Nika you are living in fear...that is not a healthy relationship. If you don't stop dancing to his emotions (making him feel comfortable) you will live this way forever. I was once told by a really good male friend he said "men don't respect or even like women they can take advantage of", unfortunately being a woman who love too much that's what we do "get taken advantage of". We are so desperate to be loved that we would stop at nothing to save our (already failed) relationship.

Nika speak your mind. Your words matter (to you). If he don't want to hear you than he should go. Find strenght. I know it's hard. Love yourself you deserve it

Big Hug

This is what my guy is doing to me now! He says if i'm needy or I say one more thing, the he swears he'll leave me and never speak to me again.

We had a bad argument the other day when he said he never wanted to speak, see or hear from me again. Then i got a text half an hour later to say 'i never said i wouldn’t speak to you ever again, just give me some space'

I can relate so much to how you are feeling, the constant anxiety of wondering if what you’re saying or doing is correct or going to annoy them. Its draining.

It’s ok for them to act one way, but they don’t like it when we do.

It’s no way to live. I hope you’re finding support from this group xx

I wish I had a nickel for everytime he has said "Do you want me to leave?" The aswer would be yes. Not sure why he is still here.

you MUST go NC. him threatening to never talk to you again? thats a form of emotional abuse, him just 'training you' to never speak up for yourself. Who do you love more him? or yourself? it sb YOU.