Honestly, even if he does get to the point of saying that, what you want him to say, I hope you don't answer. If he gets desperate enough he will say anything, what he KNOWS you want to hear. It won't be genuine and won't last. Hope that doesn't sound harsh. When my EX was stalking and desperate he many many times said all the things I hoped he would always say and FEEL, but I knew in my gut it was not sincere. He many even be able to keep the act up for a while, but it never last. The best predictor of future actions is past behavior. I read a quote recently: Right actions in the future are the best apoligies for bad actions in the past. Well, my EX could never sustatin those good actions to fix the past. He would for a short time then slowly it would revert back to the old ways. It's truly just who they are. It doesn't matter who you are, how much you love them, how good you are, it is THEM. And honestly, I believe every time you take them back, give them a chance, they make a mental note that you will put up with even more. Every time makes it more apparent to them that you will put up with them. Just reinforces that they can keep doing the same thing and get taken back. Sorry again if this sounds harsh and I do know how hard it is. I was where you are a year ago and when I heard things like what I have said I always tried to bargain in my head, like IF... this or IF..that then maybe, etc.. But I finally got to the point where I KNEW it would never change.

I appreciate that. And I share alot of your views but I can't really say that I know WHO he really is. He has never let down his guard, I don't know how much, if any real emotion he is actually capable of.
I have been hoping he wouldn't contact me so I wouldn't be faced with the temptation to give it another go, to really put myself on the line. can't say I'm tempted yet, because his garbage text was again anotehr crumb. But if he'd make promises and show a different side to himself, I may falter, because it would be a first for him.
In any case, let's not get ahead of ourselves. The guy is most likely just bored and in no way genuine.

I'm also considering the "what ifs" and I'm feeding my heart with hopes. But deep down I know that he will not change and that there never will be anything out of it. It's extremely hard to fully let go and not cling to the smallest bit of hope.....

Is there a way to block his texts? If so, that should send a loud clear message

Ya. This is how it'll sound to him:
Look at me trying to play hard to get.
Im not sure this is the ideal course of action for everyone.

I believe ignoring him is the best option. Not explicitly fighting him. You just don't care anymore (at least that's the message).

Hello all. Just touching base.
He msgd me again earlier: 'can we talk?'
then about a half hour later: 'please?'
I haven't answered. I'm too exhausted to even muster up a thought of what I would write back.
Been really busy at work and it's just gonna get crazier into the weekend.
It's my son's 4th birthday soon so plans for that are also in the works.
I really don't have the energy to deal with him right now.
Thanks for the good vibes, my friends. xo

Sometimes it is better to have that conversation and sometimes, not. I think you will ultimately know what to do. You could ask him to write an email of what he would like to say and if you feel there is something to discuss after that, you will let him know. It puts it back in his court to actually DO something.

That's a good thought but I'd rather leave that up to him. If he feels teh need to take it upon himself and write...good. That's be a huge step for him. I don't think I need to hold his hand through it.
I'm not sure what's going through his head right now, I'm trying very hard not to go there. When we last had an interraction, I was very clear on my expectations, what was unacceptable, what I would not tolerate anymore. He needs to be absolutely sure of what he's getting himself into if he decides to pursue the chase. Which is why I refuse to engage now. I can't help him know what he really wants and how much effort he's willing to put into getting my attention.

I think it's a wise decision Missmom. If he really wants to speak to you, he will put as much effort as he can into getting in touch with you. I mean more than just texts. He will try harder if he really cares.

Hope you're doing well. Hang in there, Baby!

I'm A-okay!
Keeping busy at work, thank God I love it here. My colleaugues keep me on my toes :). (never knew how to spell that word lol)

Keep it going Miss! :)

Colleagues
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hehehe. It's the french canadian in me